Hey guys.
I've always done alright with girls. I normally have a few chasing me but I'm usually not that interested. Then in late October I met someone, asked her out on a date and we clicked in a way I haven't felt in a very long time (and she felt the same).
Normally I have a lot going on in my life. I have american football 7 hours/week, boxing 3x a week, gym 6x a week, lots of friends, and I'm doing a Master's degree in Nuclear Physics; so I've never over-invested in someone before.
But from early November I had some time off lectures and tore my quad, so I couldn't train, and this girl would go to the same nights out as me/my friends. Because of all of this, we basically spent every day together from our first date until early December when we both went home for christmas holidays (I know full well why this isn't a good idea, I just had nothing else to do for a while)
I was supposed to go to Colombia for a month but the trip got cancelled last minute while I was in the airport, and all my friends went away without me (since I was meant to be in Colombia), while the girl was working every day and really busy.
Because I was completely alone and she was so busy, we didn't meet up at all and I got kinda needy. Again, I've never been like this with anyone before, but we'd more or less agreed to be exclusive at this point and I was so isolated with nothing to do in my life. Never had this feeling before and it made me text her and try to arrange meetups all the time.
On boxing day she sent me a long-ass whatsapp message saying how she's so busy and doesnt have space in her life to commit right now (translate: you got too needy and I'm not really feeling it any more) but she still wants to see me casually, then we came back to uni in early Jan and she ended it after seeing me once. I don't blame her, it makes me cringe a bit thinking about how wet I was being.
Now, I'm back to being busy and I'm really happy with my life. But I can't completely get this girl out of my head. I have fun with other girls, friends, sport etc. but I connected with her on another level and I want that back, even if it's just casual.
I understand the NC rule, but since we werent seeing eachother very long, weren't serious enough to be "in love" and she had a whole month apart to get over me before she even dumped me, I'm not sure it will work. I also see her twice a week and this can't be avoided.
Does anyone have some advice for me? I know this is a bit of oneitis, but I'm not like most "Nice Guys" who get hung up on one girl and over-commit, it was just really bad timing for us to meet otherwise we'd probably still be dating. And I don't feel like I "Need" this girl back, it would just make the rest of my time at uni a lot more enjoyable.
Is there anything I can do at this point to make her attracted to me again when she (probably) sees me as needy?
I've always done alright with girls. I normally have a few chasing me but I'm usually not that interested. Then in late October I met someone, asked her out on a date and we clicked in a way I haven't felt in a very long time (and she felt the same).
Normally I have a lot going on in my life. I have american football 7 hours/week, boxing 3x a week, gym 6x a week, lots of friends, and I'm doing a Master's degree in Nuclear Physics; so I've never over-invested in someone before.
But from early November I had some time off lectures and tore my quad, so I couldn't train, and this girl would go to the same nights out as me/my friends. Because of all of this, we basically spent every day together from our first date until early December when we both went home for christmas holidays (I know full well why this isn't a good idea, I just had nothing else to do for a while)
I was supposed to go to Colombia for a month but the trip got cancelled last minute while I was in the airport, and all my friends went away without me (since I was meant to be in Colombia), while the girl was working every day and really busy.
Because I was completely alone and she was so busy, we didn't meet up at all and I got kinda needy. Again, I've never been like this with anyone before, but we'd more or less agreed to be exclusive at this point and I was so isolated with nothing to do in my life. Never had this feeling before and it made me text her and try to arrange meetups all the time.
On boxing day she sent me a long-ass whatsapp message saying how she's so busy and doesnt have space in her life to commit right now (translate: you got too needy and I'm not really feeling it any more) but she still wants to see me casually, then we came back to uni in early Jan and she ended it after seeing me once. I don't blame her, it makes me cringe a bit thinking about how wet I was being.
Now, I'm back to being busy and I'm really happy with my life. But I can't completely get this girl out of my head. I have fun with other girls, friends, sport etc. but I connected with her on another level and I want that back, even if it's just casual.
I understand the NC rule, but since we werent seeing eachother very long, weren't serious enough to be "in love" and she had a whole month apart to get over me before she even dumped me, I'm not sure it will work. I also see her twice a week and this can't be avoided.
Does anyone have some advice for me? I know this is a bit of oneitis, but I'm not like most "Nice Guys" who get hung up on one girl and over-commit, it was just really bad timing for us to meet otherwise we'd probably still be dating. And I don't feel like I "Need" this girl back, it would just make the rest of my time at uni a lot more enjoyable.
Is there anything I can do at this point to make her attracted to me again when she (probably) sees me as needy?
