"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sometimes you just can win

toasttopper1879

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Smetimes I really think you just cant win.
You try to do everything rightand I mean right.
I hav'nt acted needy,I've never called,chased.I've never bought gifts.I flirt lots,loads,she flirts back I flirt more.Theres kino,lots of kino.I tease her,dont give her an inch to get any wuss behaviour from me.She more or less begs for attention.She demands me to say shes attractive.I tell her shes a 5 at best,maybe a 6 after I've had 12 beers.I stay confident,aloof and well in control.I flirt with other women infront of her,she criticises so I flirt with the least attractive I can find.
And what happens.I get dumped in the friend zone.How did it happenI wish I knew.
She says I'm one of her closest friends now,she'll never sleep with me & she even thinks I'd make a good gay.
Sometimes a man just cant win.I'm resigning. Maybe just for a while.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Zeal

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toasttopper1879 said:
She demands me to say shes attractive.I tell her shes a 5 at best,maybe a 6 after I've had 12 beers.
Holy crap. I'm all about "neg-hitting," but it seems that something like this would be nothing more than an insult unless your delivery and the rapport that you had leading up to it was perfect. Her reaction to all of the above was probably her way of protecting herself and trying to claw back some of her dignity after putting herself out there and scrambling for your attention.
 

toasttopper1879

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Shes desperate for me to say I'd sleep with her,fancy her,worship her.She tels me I want to.What am I supposed to do.Cave in.I dont think so.I love the way she lstens to me intesly & gazes at me & then tells me I'm ugly.
Strange game isnt it.
 

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toasttopper1879 said:
Shes desperate for me to say I'd sleep with her,fancy her,worship her.She tels me I want to.What am I supposed to do.Cave in.I dont think so.I love the way she lstens to me intesly & gazes at me & then tells me I'm ugly.
Strange game isnt it.

there is a thin line between being a charming but ****y ass and a complete *******..



i am pretty sure you crossed that line a long time ago. hence the LJBF. learn about calibration and congruency. and how to actually talk to women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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