"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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something just hit me like a ton of bricks

backbreaker

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It was a baseball...

No seriously though, think about this.

There isn't a situtation that you can post about that anyone, including myself can find something wrong with.

" This girl just met me and seems very interested in me, and she isn't dating anyone. We went out and she said she didn't want to have sex the first night"

Oh, the fact that she doesn't have a BF means there must be something wrong with her. Also she isn't attracted to you physically. Move on

" This girl likes me, but she has a BF, but we go out every once in a while"

She is using you for her tampon (which may be true, more times than not) Move on

"This girl I met told me to call her, but when I did she didn't pick up the phone. I called her again and she said she was busy, and she would call me back later that night"

She isn't interested in you. Move on

" yeah, I just has sex with this woman. Doggy style on top of that. We had sex all night. We were only on our 4th date"

She just is an attention *****. Now that you gave her attention, she is going to fade to black. Move on

Okay, while I am not saying that this advice is wrong, think about it... Is there any one situtation where you can automatically say "No, this girl likes me, no questions asked?"

NO

What I am saying is first and foremost, use your gut. Your gut is usually right about most things. If you think this chick diggs you, and you do know the rules of the game, even if she does have a BF, or is playing hard to get, or is working all the time, guess what. She probably likes you.

Not to say that the advice on here is bad.. I wouldn't be where i am today with women if it wern't for the advice here, but I have learned to take everything with a grain of salt.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i agree with you. but some people look into details way too much and often it leads to your downfall. who cares if she was busy, if you look deeply into it, you will think about way to much and you wont get anywhere. when it comes down to it, girls want to be persued, its been like that for ages. just go with your gut and be persistant. besides, if one girl is busy, find another girl that isnt and have fun with her.
 

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No girl really, just info I gathered from reading all of these posts
 

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I agree to a large degree

The DJ's of this site are teaching the AFC's the rigid criteria of nexting, when what the AFC's should be doing is just getting a few relationships under their belts. I know that's what my problem is. A few girls here, a few there, I see a red flag and next the girl. No wonder I haven't had a girlfriend last more than a month. :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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