"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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something I noticed about stuff.

thedude4242

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you ever have a women you cant resist and then have a women were you debate should u or shouldnt you hit it? the hot one you cant resist is the one you who are always willing to do something with. however the other girl is ok looking but sometime at the last minute you say, I am not going to meet with her or unless they are under your conditions. this women is one who is always willing to do something and answer your calls and texts. should you look at every women like "is she good enough for me" or "do I really want this" you are playing things really good with the one you are hesitant about without really even noticing. what do you guys think. this kind of stuff is really hard to do with hot women whether you want to believe it or not.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To me, a girl always has to qualify herself. I've written off really hot chicks because they were plain arrogant b*tches that always had guys around kissing their asses. I've dated a girl who went like "I think I can choose from 36 different guy at the moment" at some point. NEXT!

But I also don't do girls I'm not interested in. A few weeks ago I got a booty call from a girl from salsa classes. But since I'm not attracted to her, I say no.

Just do what feels good in YOUR book. If you want to have sex with as many girls as possible without ever caring if they look good, go for it. If you think you need to measure off wether a girl is hot enough and has a personality you like, than do that. It's YOUR life, YOUR d*ck you stick in them, so make your own g*ddamn rules.
 

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I've dated a girl who went like "I think I can choose from 36 different guy at the moment" at some point. NEXT!
I wonder if she felt that she was communicating her high value by telling you that. Obviously, it didn't work.
 

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I mean even if you like a girl dont look at her as you like you. make yourself think you dont really like her. then you will play it better.
 

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This is all great advice, but it's a lot easier said than done. You have to really believe that mindset. You also need legitimate options. You can't just tell yourself that you have options.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OFWHAP said:
This is all great advice, but it's a lot easier said than done. You have to really believe that mindset. You also need legitimate options. You can't just tell yourself that you have options.
Yep. I've said it before and I'll say it again: To have an abundance mentality you need to actually have abundance. You can't fake it forever.
 
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