"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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something I noticed about stuff.

thedude4242

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you ever have a women you cant resist and then have a women were you debate should u or shouldnt you hit it? the hot one you cant resist is the one you who are always willing to do something with. however the other girl is ok looking but sometime at the last minute you say, I am not going to meet with her or unless they are under your conditions. this women is one who is always willing to do something and answer your calls and texts. should you look at every women like "is she good enough for me" or "do I really want this" you are playing things really good with the one you are hesitant about without really even noticing. what do you guys think. this kind of stuff is really hard to do with hot women whether you want to believe it or not.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To me, a girl always has to qualify herself. I've written off really hot chicks because they were plain arrogant b*tches that always had guys around kissing their asses. I've dated a girl who went like "I think I can choose from 36 different guy at the moment" at some point. NEXT!

But I also don't do girls I'm not interested in. A few weeks ago I got a booty call from a girl from salsa classes. But since I'm not attracted to her, I say no.

Just do what feels good in YOUR book. If you want to have sex with as many girls as possible without ever caring if they look good, go for it. If you think you need to measure off wether a girl is hot enough and has a personality you like, than do that. It's YOUR life, YOUR d*ck you stick in them, so make your own g*ddamn rules.
 

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I've dated a girl who went like "I think I can choose from 36 different guy at the moment" at some point. NEXT!
I wonder if she felt that she was communicating her high value by telling you that. Obviously, it didn't work.
 

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I mean even if you like a girl dont look at her as you like you. make yourself think you dont really like her. then you will play it better.
 

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This is all great advice, but it's a lot easier said than done. You have to really believe that mindset. You also need legitimate options. You can't just tell yourself that you have options.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OFWHAP said:
This is all great advice, but it's a lot easier said than done. You have to really believe that mindset. You also need legitimate options. You can't just tell yourself that you have options.
Yep. I've said it before and I'll say it again: To have an abundance mentality you need to actually have abundance. You can't fake it forever.
 
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