"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Someone Please Kick My Ass

onemorerobot

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ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHH!!! I am a freakin jackass. I finally have the perfect moment to ask for this girl's phone number and I **bleep**ing blew it. I'm so pissed at myself right now. Why God? Why do I **bleep** balls so much? She obviously likes me, so why can't I get up the nerve to just ask her??? I need a swift kick to the face and balls. Who's first in line?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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rejection is better than regret...always rememeber that ****
 

Gubby

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Hahaha, man, you care too much. Kicking yourself about won't help. This may be asking for too much.. but you should try thinking of this sh'it as a little less important.

OH NOES I DIDN'T GET LAID. I bit like those last 18x365 days huh? Funny how you've survived that long! EVERYONE knows that more than a fortnight without getting a girl is usually fatal to males!

Do you have a hobby? Possibly a career or school?

Girls define themselves by how well they can attract the opposite sex. Men have bigger fish to fry.
 

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This has nothing to do with getting laid. I'm not looking to simply bang this girl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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donjuanjovi

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Stop thinking of all the horrible thing that probably arn't going to happen, and think of the positive things that will come of this if you ask her! Just as quiksilver's sig says "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
What if hockey players never shot at the net for the fear they may miss and be made fun of by their team mates for a crappy shot?

Just Do It!
 

Gubby

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onemorerobot said:
This has nothing to do with getting laid. I'm not looking to simply bang this girl.
My advice still goes. Replace get laid with "have a super meaningful relationship".

Seriously, you can't muster the balls to do it because you are taking it WAY TOO SERIOUSLY. What's she gonna do? Punch you?

The only remedy for taking oneself too seriously is to laugh at yourself. Go on. Laugh. Don't you look dumb? Think of how ridiculous it all is. Whatever you want to do to this girl it can't be soooo much better than anything else that ever happened to you. You have a favourite restaurant? You like eating there? Do you ever get totally nervous when you're about to go to this restaurant? What if the food takes too long to come? Maybe there could be some accident and the restaurant's closed? WHAT IF THE RESTURANT BURNED DOWN?!

Come on, slap yourself in the face, you know you want to.
 

donjuanjovi

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Gubby said:
What's she gonna do? Punch you?
:box:

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

Distant Light

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onemorerobot said:
ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHH!!! I am a freakin jackass. I finally have the perfect moment to ask for this girl's phone number and I **bleep**ing blew it. I'm so pissed at myself right now. Why God? Why do I **bleep** balls so much? She obviously likes me, so why can't I get up the nerve to just ask her??? I need a swift kick to the face and balls. Who's first in line?
It's not that much of a big deal getting a number doesn't guarantee nothing but if you will never see her again you should've went for a number.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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