"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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someone please kick my ass - I've lost the plot

stinkyape

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I've let a girl get under my skin and it's pissing me off.

There's some interest on her part, but half the time when I get her alone her body language cools right off. The worst news is that I've got an emotion interest in her - which is screwing me right up. Worse still is that the "challenge" means I'm having trouble moving on from her and getting back to the old me.

I've also shunned three 18 year old university/college students in the last week or two because I've been focussed on this one girl. Such a moron.

Please tell me what a spaz I've been, and if you've had such an experience yourself then advice on how I can stop being so dumb would be appreciated. :eek:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:
 

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Rex Man said:
You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:

LOL

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You have to man up dude.

If you're not getting what you want you just have to grab your balls and force yourself to get over it.

****, cry in a pillow in your bedroom if you have to. Don't let her know that, but do what you have to to move on.
 

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Consider your arse kicked.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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stinkyape

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Rex Man said:
You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:
Thats spectacular. Can't stop laughing :D :crackup: (And my place is always spotless!)

wjh - that's the advice I've given myself, although I'm not really the crying type. I'll get over it better if I go down to the docks and pick fights with drunk fishermen. If I don't get what I want this weekend, there's stacks of young tail I can let chase me around campus....
 
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