"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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someone please kick my ass - I've lost the plot

stinkyape

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I've let a girl get under my skin and it's pissing me off.

There's some interest on her part, but half the time when I get her alone her body language cools right off. The worst news is that I've got an emotion interest in her - which is screwing me right up. Worse still is that the "challenge" means I'm having trouble moving on from her and getting back to the old me.

I've also shunned three 18 year old university/college students in the last week or two because I've been focussed on this one girl. Such a moron.

Please tell me what a spaz I've been, and if you've had such an experience yourself then advice on how I can stop being so dumb would be appreciated. :eek:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:
 

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Rex Man said:
You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:

LOL

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You have to man up dude.

If you're not getting what you want you just have to grab your balls and force yourself to get over it.

****, cry in a pillow in your bedroom if you have to. Don't let her know that, but do what you have to to move on.
 

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Consider your arse kicked.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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stinkyape

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Rex Man said:
You have two options as I see it. Either:
1) Go all crazy and drive off a cliff spazzing out about it, or

2) Set the mood one night, get the perfect movie, cook for her, even make sure the lighting is right. Invite her over (make sure the place is clean). When she gets inside your place, stab her @ss to death. Better her than you, eh? :up:
Thats spectacular. Can't stop laughing :D :crackup: (And my place is always spotless!)

wjh - that's the advice I've given myself, although I'm not really the crying type. I'll get over it better if I go down to the docks and pick fights with drunk fishermen. If I don't get what I want this weekend, there's stacks of young tail I can let chase me around campus....
 
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