"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Someone here have or had a fwb or a ****buddy?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Is that supposed to be a major accomplishment or something?
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Usually how it goes is: you guys stay f-buddies for a while, one or both of you catch feelings and it gets more serious.. The person whos usually has other f buddies doesn't care as much, while the one who only has you as a reliable f buddy and no one else tends to get hurt.
Now when it comes to friends that are friends besides f buddies too.. you dont care who they sleep with or anything because you guys are more friends than f buddies, but on a drunk occasion or two you might sleep with them. There are some subtle feelings there but you never like them in the way that you would want to be exclusive with them. your feelings for them more or less manifest at you getting angry with them over little things and it turns into weird arguments.. where people think u hate each other but dont know u expect more from each other cuz u guys been sleeping together
yea sorry if that last paragraph is alot to take in xD
Also dont **** friends you've known for some time and its possible to **** out of the friendzone but not worth it. Its more built up in your mind than real life.
After I was enlightened. I aimed to get out of the friendzone. Made it casual/fwb. Then she wanted a relationship. I strung her along because at that point. I saw her without rose tinted glasses and couldnt believe I wanted a relationship with her. I was disgusted to get into a relationship with her.
Pretty much. At somepoint activities become too relationship type. And if you only message to fvck/logistics, I've noticed they catch feelings faster.
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When I was around 18-20 I fell into several of these situations, but at the time I didn't value what I had because I was young and naive and I fell in love with these women. It happened to me a few times - if I had just accepted the situation for what it was, I could have kept banging these girls for years whilst being free to bang other women but I wanted them to become my girlfriend and they ditched me because I was too clingy.
This was before I understood that women use different men for different purposes. Several of these women had boyfriends/husbands/other guys they were seeing and I felt like I was in competition with them rather than accepting and enjoying the fact that the girl just wanted to bang me on the side.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.