"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Someone here have or had a fwb or a ****buddy?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Is that supposed to be a major accomplishment or something?
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Usually how it goes is: you guys stay f-buddies for a while, one or both of you catch feelings and it gets more serious.. The person whos usually has other f buddies doesn't care as much, while the one who only has you as a reliable f buddy and no one else tends to get hurt.
Now when it comes to friends that are friends besides f buddies too.. you dont care who they sleep with or anything because you guys are more friends than f buddies, but on a drunk occasion or two you might sleep with them. There are some subtle feelings there but you never like them in the way that you would want to be exclusive with them. your feelings for them more or less manifest at you getting angry with them over little things and it turns into weird arguments.. where people think u hate each other but dont know u expect more from each other cuz u guys been sleeping together
yea sorry if that last paragraph is alot to take in xD
Also dont **** friends you've known for some time and its possible to **** out of the friendzone but not worth it. Its more built up in your mind than real life.
After I was enlightened. I aimed to get out of the friendzone. Made it casual/fwb. Then she wanted a relationship. I strung her along because at that point. I saw her without rose tinted glasses and couldnt believe I wanted a relationship with her. I was disgusted to get into a relationship with her.
Pretty much. At somepoint activities become too relationship type. And if you only message to fvck/logistics, I've noticed they catch feelings faster.
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When I was around 18-20 I fell into several of these situations, but at the time I didn't value what I had because I was young and naive and I fell in love with these women. It happened to me a few times - if I had just accepted the situation for what it was, I could have kept banging these girls for years whilst being free to bang other women but I wanted them to become my girlfriend and they ditched me because I was too clingy.
This was before I understood that women use different men for different purposes. Several of these women had boyfriends/husbands/other guys they were seeing and I felt like I was in competition with them rather than accepting and enjoying the fact that the girl just wanted to bang me on the side.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.