I'm single because I have a nagging feeling that I will regret going out with girls right now. I will regret going out with girls right now because I believe a girl that I saw one time on campus (whom I haven't seen since 2012) is waiting for the right time to ask me out. I have a feeling that she is a virgin like I am and so if I go out with other girls right now then I'll ruin it for her when she comes back to me. I'm almost 30 years old. Any advice? Am I doing the right thing? Why or why not?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Somebody Talk Some Sense Into Me?
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
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Wait until you’re 40. She will probably ask you out on a surprise date then. If not, I recommend waiting until 50. If she’s still holding out, then I’d go no contact on her.
ShadowFenix
Don Juan
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You've only seen her once and you think she fell in love with you?
greatsnake
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Wait until you retire
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
