I'm single because I have a nagging feeling that I will regret going out with girls right now. I will regret going out with girls right now because I believe a girl that I saw one time on campus (whom I haven't seen since 2012) is waiting for the right time to ask me out. I have a feeling that she is a virgin like I am and so if I go out with other girls right now then I'll ruin it for her when she comes back to me. I'm almost 30 years old. Any advice? Am I doing the right thing? Why or why not?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Somebody Talk Some Sense Into Me?
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2012
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- 410
- Reaction score
- 216
- Age
- 38
Wait until you’re 40. She will probably ask you out on a surprise date then. If not, I recommend waiting until 50. If she’s still holding out, then I’d go no contact on her.
ShadowFenix
Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 2, 2018
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- 27
- Reaction score
- 15
You've only seen her once and you think she fell in love with you?
greatsnake
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 19, 2017
- Messages
- 648
- Reaction score
- 313
- Age
- 37
Wait until you retire
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
