I'm single because I have a nagging feeling that I will regret going out with girls right now. I will regret going out with girls right now because I believe a girl that I saw one time on campus (whom I haven't seen since 2012) is waiting for the right time to ask me out. I have a feeling that she is a virgin like I am and so if I go out with other girls right now then I'll ruin it for her when she comes back to me. I'm almost 30 years old. Any advice? Am I doing the right thing? Why or why not?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Somebody Talk Some Sense Into Me?
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
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Wait until you’re 40. She will probably ask you out on a surprise date then. If not, I recommend waiting until 50. If she’s still holding out, then I’d go no contact on her.
ShadowFenix
Don Juan
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You've only seen her once and you think she fell in love with you?
greatsnake
Master Don Juan
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Wait until you retire
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
