I'm single because I have a nagging feeling that I will regret going out with girls right now. I will regret going out with girls right now because I believe a girl that I saw one time on campus (whom I haven't seen since 2012) is waiting for the right time to ask me out. I have a feeling that she is a virgin like I am and so if I go out with other girls right now then I'll ruin it for her when she comes back to me. I'm almost 30 years old. Any advice? Am I doing the right thing? Why or why not?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Somebody Talk Some Sense Into Me?
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
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Wait until you’re 40. She will probably ask you out on a surprise date then. If not, I recommend waiting until 50. If she’s still holding out, then I’d go no contact on her.
ShadowFenix
Don Juan
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You've only seen her once and you think she fell in love with you?
greatsnake
Master Don Juan
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Wait until you retire
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
