I'm single because I have a nagging feeling that I will regret going out with girls right now. I will regret going out with girls right now because I believe a girl that I saw one time on campus (whom I haven't seen since 2012) is waiting for the right time to ask me out. I have a feeling that she is a virgin like I am and so if I go out with other girls right now then I'll ruin it for her when she comes back to me. I'm almost 30 years old. Any advice? Am I doing the right thing? Why or why not?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Somebody Talk Some Sense Into Me?
- Thread starter b.l.g.k.
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
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Wait until you’re 40. She will probably ask you out on a surprise date then. If not, I recommend waiting until 50. If she’s still holding out, then I’d go no contact on her.
ShadowFenix
Don Juan
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You've only seen her once and you think she fell in love with you?
greatsnake
Master Don Juan
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Wait until you retire
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
