"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Some Women Simply Bring Out The AFC in Men

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I have come to the conclusion that some women simply bring out the AFC in men. I dont know how and I dont know why. My ex wife bought out the AFC in me, a little girl I know really well brings it out in me and I can see me slipping that way again with a little chick I am seeing currently.

I think it is the vulnerable ones in my case, the ones that are absolutely easiest to literally convert to being on your team. Stronger minded sexually driven chicks are easiest for me, the others are easy pickings for a PIMP. Others here convert to AFC behaviour for AW's, others seem smitten with "the good girl" types.

I am working HARD on putting on my playa face each morning and being the PIMP, not the bloody saviour. Like an article said on the front screen, "Never try to save a woman".

It is our own fault and something we all need to work on because we all know that the women dont really go for AFC behaviour. As a male, it makes me physically ill when I see a man acting AFC toward his woman, so, it stand to reason it would make women sick as well.

Anyway, had some time to kill, thought I would share this thought.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good Point

Yeah, I can see that, perhaps we need to look at ourselves and why we are attracted to the type of woman that we become AFC toward.
 

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I think you missed the point. I am one of those who gets hot for "good girl" traditional girls. I don't act AFC toward them, but I don't attempt to hide the fact that I'm attracted, either (I keep it under control and don't vomit it out, of course, but that's totally different)
 

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MMM

I go for the semi nuts type. The truly lame I tend to protect, the slightly insane I tend to use. I lack attraction to the good girl types, dont know why, just dont. I think that being raised by women had a rebellion effect on me.

I need the edge of reality type relationships, the "what next?" type. They DO bring out the AFC in me. I am working on this, "you cant save a woman" but its hard. I am working on a thread by a guy about BEing, not acting. Come a long way so far but still have some work to do.

Hey, Im not even complaining, I kind of like this side of me, keeps me alive. I am either trying to fukc them or save them. Want to change that to "stop" the saviour aspect.

Hey Metalfortress, heres a frenetic look at it. "Poot on me play a faze"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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