You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Quite the contrary, Realnezz. I DO know what a DJ is.Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
No one even knows what a DJ is or is supposed to be.The moderators don't even know.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is a good perspective and I'll add there must be some deeply rooted substance to go with the marketing.Originally posted by Survivor
Quite the contrary, Realnezz. I DO know what a DJ is.
It has nothing to do with women, sex, dating, relationships or even self-improvement.
"DJism", however, has everything to do with marketing.
That's why even as a mod I try to use the term "DJ" as little as possible.
Yah, this site is here to sell stuff. www.sosuave.com the main page has or had a ton of affiliate sales programs all over it.Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
I don't know what to take from that,Survivor.I'm assuming your saying this site is here to just sell something.
4 shoOriginally posted by Tha Realnezz
"Focusing on women and pickups and on macking and being a player isn't going to help a guy who is just starting out. The average joe here doesn't have the skills or even the mindset for this game yet.
Most guys here fall in love with every hot chick they talk to! This leads to obsessive behaviour which just drags these guys down. You see these obsessive/oneitis posts everyday. So telling a guy to just focus on women and his game, doesn't really work. They focus so much on chicks and trying to get laid by anyone that they end up being a bunch of pVssy-crazed idiots."
Ok,but the reason their not getting it's cuz they're bogged down with "becoming the pize" -so to speak- in the first place.
Your not lying when you say i'm another level.But I have a duty to help these kids.It's like I said before some people are hiding behind that reasoning of -"I don't need women now cuz I'm happy with my life"-That's cool.
But at the end of the day people log on to figure out how to get women.When you tell someone-"I don't need women"-your just making up excuses.
Let's someone did take all the Don Juan steps and suddenly got ripped,got a new job and new car,clothes,apt,the promotion AND get women.Your not helping anyone by just replying to everything with "self-imrovement first" -Don't just say that show them how to get women .
That's real talk. When kids say that, they're just fooling themselves.Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
Your not lying when you say i'm another level.But I have a duty to help these kids.It's like I said before some people are hiding behind that reasoning of -"I don't need women now cuz I'm happy with my life"-That's cool.
But at the end of the day people log on to figure out how to get women.When you tell someone-"I don't need women"-your just making up excuses.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.