"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Some things I have been pondering on for awhile now...

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BenPW-DJNewbie

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Firstly, I realised being popular isn't everything, so I am over that. But..how can I be really respected, and wanted by my friends, and girls.

Another question, how, just by a girl looking, can I make them notice me and not just see me as 'another person in the crowd'? I don't want to be a person who just blends in.:(
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NINJA PIMP

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1. You need to respect yourself before you can expect that from other people. You sound very insecure and nobody respects a sensitive wimp.

2. You shouldn't have to do anything to make a girl notice you. Don't fall into the PUA trap of wearing ridiculous gear or performing like a monkey for attention.

Definitely take care of yourself and look your best, but realize that is still only a small part of one's presence. You need to exude the right kind of energy and charisma to really stand out. The only way you do this is to be as uninhibited and fun to be around as possible.
 
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One more thing?

I'm not insecure and needy, I dont give a fvck what anyone thinks of me and I always stand up for myself and not in a vain way, but I love myself, and I'm always imrproving myself.
I have an important couple of questions now.

firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...
 

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firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

A "fun" person is usually one who has a humorous view on things. He is social, friendly, engages people in conversations, and alwasy has something witty to say.
He is adventurous, and takes a positive spin on life and its circumstances.

A "Charismatic" person is one who knows how to display their inner personality. One who knows how to smile, stand, exude confidence and self assuredness. He has a flair for expression, verbal and non verbal. He has a certain skill or trait that stands out, which makes others drawn to him for his excellence in it.

A "great person" to be around is one who always lends a helping hand to friends, is non judgemental and non critical. He lets others be themselves, and encourages them to greatness and free expression. He compliments people genuinely and has no hidden agenda. he is a true friendly companion. He gives advice when asked, and has comapssion for others when they make mistakes. He has patience and always smiles easily.




secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...


Talking in measured sentences is the best. Say what you have to say, and say no more.
Don't feel like you have to have a say in everything. Do not feel the need to have to voice your opinion to everyone on everything.
Wghen you do speak, be aware of your voice tone, speak deeply, and and witrh conviction in what you have to say...otherwise shut up.
DO not cut off other people when they're talking. Do not try to be louder than others so you can be "heard". Just express your opinion when it's necessary. Otherwise you will come across as insecure, and needing approval and attention from others.
 
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Much thanks for your answer, Interceptor. If you have any form of IM, maybe we could talk abit more about this? If not, ah well. Cheers again. :)

Ben
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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