"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some things I have been pondering on for awhile now...

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Firstly, I realised being popular isn't everything, so I am over that. But..how can I be really respected, and wanted by my friends, and girls.

Another question, how, just by a girl looking, can I make them notice me and not just see me as 'another person in the crowd'? I don't want to be a person who just blends in.:(
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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1. You need to respect yourself before you can expect that from other people. You sound very insecure and nobody respects a sensitive wimp.

2. You shouldn't have to do anything to make a girl notice you. Don't fall into the PUA trap of wearing ridiculous gear or performing like a monkey for attention.

Definitely take care of yourself and look your best, but realize that is still only a small part of one's presence. You need to exude the right kind of energy and charisma to really stand out. The only way you do this is to be as uninhibited and fun to be around as possible.
 
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One more thing?

I'm not insecure and needy, I dont give a fvck what anyone thinks of me and I always stand up for myself and not in a vain way, but I love myself, and I'm always imrproving myself.
I have an important couple of questions now.

firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...
 

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firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

A "fun" person is usually one who has a humorous view on things. He is social, friendly, engages people in conversations, and alwasy has something witty to say.
He is adventurous, and takes a positive spin on life and its circumstances.

A "Charismatic" person is one who knows how to display their inner personality. One who knows how to smile, stand, exude confidence and self assuredness. He has a flair for expression, verbal and non verbal. He has a certain skill or trait that stands out, which makes others drawn to him for his excellence in it.

A "great person" to be around is one who always lends a helping hand to friends, is non judgemental and non critical. He lets others be themselves, and encourages them to greatness and free expression. He compliments people genuinely and has no hidden agenda. he is a true friendly companion. He gives advice when asked, and has comapssion for others when they make mistakes. He has patience and always smiles easily.




secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...


Talking in measured sentences is the best. Say what you have to say, and say no more.
Don't feel like you have to have a say in everything. Do not feel the need to have to voice your opinion to everyone on everything.
Wghen you do speak, be aware of your voice tone, speak deeply, and and witrh conviction in what you have to say...otherwise shut up.
DO not cut off other people when they're talking. Do not try to be louder than others so you can be "heard". Just express your opinion when it's necessary. Otherwise you will come across as insecure, and needing approval and attention from others.
 
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Much thanks for your answer, Interceptor. If you have any form of IM, maybe we could talk abit more about this? If not, ah well. Cheers again. :)

Ben
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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