"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Some things I have been pondering on for awhile now...

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BenPW-DJNewbie

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Firstly, I realised being popular isn't everything, so I am over that. But..how can I be really respected, and wanted by my friends, and girls.

Another question, how, just by a girl looking, can I make them notice me and not just see me as 'another person in the crowd'? I don't want to be a person who just blends in.:(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NINJA PIMP

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1. You need to respect yourself before you can expect that from other people. You sound very insecure and nobody respects a sensitive wimp.

2. You shouldn't have to do anything to make a girl notice you. Don't fall into the PUA trap of wearing ridiculous gear or performing like a monkey for attention.

Definitely take care of yourself and look your best, but realize that is still only a small part of one's presence. You need to exude the right kind of energy and charisma to really stand out. The only way you do this is to be as uninhibited and fun to be around as possible.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie

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One more thing?

I'm not insecure and needy, I dont give a fvck what anyone thinks of me and I always stand up for myself and not in a vain way, but I love myself, and I'm always imrproving myself.
I have an important couple of questions now.

firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...
 

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firstly, how do I be fun, charismatic, great person to be around? some examples please?

A "fun" person is usually one who has a humorous view on things. He is social, friendly, engages people in conversations, and alwasy has something witty to say.
He is adventurous, and takes a positive spin on life and its circumstances.

A "Charismatic" person is one who knows how to display their inner personality. One who knows how to smile, stand, exude confidence and self assuredness. He has a flair for expression, verbal and non verbal. He has a certain skill or trait that stands out, which makes others drawn to him for his excellence in it.

A "great person" to be around is one who always lends a helping hand to friends, is non judgemental and non critical. He lets others be themselves, and encourages them to greatness and free expression. He compliments people genuinely and has no hidden agenda. he is a true friendly companion. He gives advice when asked, and has comapssion for others when they make mistakes. He has patience and always smiles easily.




secondly, is talking alot less a better thing and should I be a bit quieter? I talk quite abit? Just wondering...


Talking in measured sentences is the best. Say what you have to say, and say no more.
Don't feel like you have to have a say in everything. Do not feel the need to have to voice your opinion to everyone on everything.
Wghen you do speak, be aware of your voice tone, speak deeply, and and witrh conviction in what you have to say...otherwise shut up.
DO not cut off other people when they're talking. Do not try to be louder than others so you can be "heard". Just express your opinion when it's necessary. Otherwise you will come across as insecure, and needing approval and attention from others.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie

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Much thanks for your answer, Interceptor. If you have any form of IM, maybe we could talk abit more about this? If not, ah well. Cheers again. :)

Ben
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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