"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some pretty smooth openers?

Jordski

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Hey guys, so I was looking at my FB profile untill I saw this girl that used to be my juniors in Highschool. She wasnt some sort of spectacular back then but boy, shes pretty hot now, went to med school and stuff. We were kinda close before because I was in relathionship with her bestfriend. Soo my question is what would be the great openers to reconnect to her without being boring and obvious? I kinda wanna get her number and ask her out. Thoughts would be appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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marmel75

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Stop overthinking things...it's always obvious why you would be contacting her. As if somehow she doesn't realize that you want to bang her when you just start messaging her out of the blue.

Stop trying to figure out a way to do it and just do the normal thing and ask her out for a drink. Confidence means you don't have to trick women into meeting you, you simply ask them out. Be confident, not like one of these dudes who thinks they need to trick women into going out. They see through it every time trust me.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Send her a message something like small convo but then push for her number so you can text. From there don't spend too much time texting. Tell her you guys should get together for drinks on xxx day.
 

Yewki

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Nothing against the OP, but this is such a classic blue pill mistake. Trying to think of that one clever thing to say to open her up and make her fall for you. This is called creating a mountain out of a mole hill and is the result of pedestalization.

If the blue pill guy ever does eventually work up the courage to say something, it will likely come across as try hard (desperate) or awkward. And will probably be worse than if he had just casually said, "Hey"

Moral of the story, stop giving a f*ck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Canned openers rarely work because you know you are using an opener. I realized this in 5th grade. Instead, make up your own routine and try it out by lots of practice. Yes, that means lots of failures, but also more overall success.
 

Jordski

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Thanks for all the insights guys. But I dont think a simple "hey" to someone that you havent been talking for years wouldnt work. And im not pedestaling here. Esp on facebook, its not gonna get you anywhere but "seen" zone. I think it should be a little more details and right to the point isnt it?
 

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What always works best for me is paying her a border line sexual complement, then asking her her name always works for me. Also imagine in the back of your mind that an even hotter woman is waiting for you on the other side of the room. This puts you in the proper frame.

"I noticed that you have the nicest legs, what's your name?"

What ever it is that you PHYSICALLY noticed about her that attracted you... tell her.

She'll either thank you and open up, or she'll shut you down. If it's the later just move on. If she is interested she will work to keep your attention, then it's easy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Huffman

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What always works best for me is paying her a border line sexual complement, then asking her her name always works for me.
That's great, a fine balance between sexuality and politeness.
 
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