Some great questions to ask on dates....

[marmel75]

Some of these I have used without knowing...apparently these help build a strong connection quickly by going from very general to more personal and asking certain questions...

In his first study, a psychologist had two strangers who had never meet each other go through these questions with each other and after it was over they ended up dating and getting married...interesting stuff...

Obviously you cant ask all 36 questions at once(or maybe you could) but these are some really good and interesting questions for guys who have trouble with not being boring or not knowing what to say...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rd.com/advice/relationships/arthur-aron-36-questions/amp/

 

[Billtx49]

Some of these I have used without knowing...apparently these help build a strong connection quickly by going from very general to more personal and asking certain questions...

In his first study, a psychologist had two strangers who had never meet each other go through these questions with each other and after it was over they ended up dating and getting married...interesting stuff...

Obviously you cant ask all 36 questions at once(or maybe you could) but these are some really good and interesting questions for guys who have trouble with not being boring or not knowing what to say...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rd.com/advice/relationships/arthur-aron-36-questions/amp/

#10 should be #1 on the importance scale for you. The formative years of her adolescence are the key to the woman she is now. She may not verbally leak anything bad on first date though… her visual facial clues are usually your best guess there.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Wtf? I don't care about any of that sh1t.

That's the type of things that sound like a good idea when you're sitting at home, but sound corny in person.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

#10 should be #1 on the importance scale for you. The formative years of her adolescence are the key to the woman she is now. She may not verbally leak anything bad on first date though… her visual facial clues are usually your best guess there.

The guy whose shirt says "Party With Sluts" wants to know about the formative years of their adolescence? Lol.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

lol @ 11:

"Tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible" Hell no

The problem with these is that most of them are too personal. Most people are not willing to discuss these things with you, or if they do, they will view you in a different way. This is more friendzone territory than lover territory. You are the guy she can see being a supportive husband and a good father for her kids, not the guy who is ACTUALLY got her pregnant.....

 

[Billtx49]

The guy whose shirt says "Party With Sluts" wants to know about the formative years of their adolescence? Lol.

Thanks go out to you for your contributions to this thread @RichardTheFrog…

 

[ubercat]

Good list. Marmels wasn't supplying it for the experienced guys. Of course he would introduce it into conversation in a round about way. EG you like to travel so where was the best place you went. She goes blah blah some place with a beach. You tell her about some beach you used to like to go to as a teenager and then that leads into the question. You don't develop conversational skills what the hell are you going to do when you have a girlfriend. Girlfriends require group socialisation guys ain't no way around that one.

 

[marmel75]

lol @ 11:

"Tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible" Hell no

The problem with these is that most of them are too personal. Most people are not willing to discuss these things with you, or if they do, they will view you in a different way. This is more friendzone territory than lover territory. You are the guy she can see being a supportive husband and a good father for her kids, not the guy who is ACTUALLY got her pregnant.....

You'd be surprised what people will share with you within 5 minutes of knowing them when you ask enough questions.

 

[wolf]

#10 should be #1 on the importance scale for you. The formative years of her adolescence are the key to the woman she is now. She may not verbally leak anything bad on first date though… her visual facial clues are usually your best guess there.

Best thing to say is this

"I bet you are a Daddies girl aren't you?"

Then wink and smile at her. Her reaction will tell you everything that you need to know. If she IS a Daddies girl then her eyes will light up at his name and she will tell you all about him. If she has Daddy Issues then she will look downward or to the the side before changing the subject. Well in my experience anyway.

 

[Von]

I did this 36 questions with my girlfriend after our date.
We had quite similar answers

I guess that's why she's sticking around

It's great stuff, it gives you ammo.

It's also a good screening list, cause the questions are pretty personnal

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Still doesn’t mean that she wants you to **** her brains out. You gotta be he guy she wants to bang, not her therapist.

 

[derby1]

i gather by @marmel75 original post he means you use your imagination blend the questions in , NEVER ask a woman a question like a spreadsheet or military drill , you blend it in and out as the convo suites

tell her this exciting as Fck holiday you went where your 7 year old daughter bought 1! item off the "lucky lucky men" and they waited outside the hotel for her for the rest of the holiday with umbrellas and sunglasses depending on the weather , bet she cant beat that one???

She'll jog her memory and hit you back with her best holiday story

then you know its time to ....................PLAY BALL

 

[Dash Riprock]

Some of these I have used without knowing...apparently these help build a strong connection quickly by going from very general to more personal and asking certain questions...

In his first study, a psychologist had two strangers who had never meet each other go through these questions with each other and after it was over they ended up dating and getting married...interesting stuff...

Obviously you cant ask all 36 questions at once(or maybe you could) but these are some really good and interesting questions for guys who have trouble with not being boring or not knowing what to say...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rd.com/advice/relationships/arthur-aron-36-questions/amp/

Yeah, I bet the psychologist who put together this list sure gets a laid a lot...LOL.

Most of these are horrible and some sound like you're on a f*ucking job interview. Nothing could be a bigger turnoff for women, or me if I was on the receiving end.

Remember: Women want to have FUN, whether it's the first date or 1000th date. So act FUN. Some things that get girls going on first or second dates are astrology (I always tell then my sign, Leo, and that I'm the KING of the zodiac and they could never handle me or it will never work because their sign is so inferior, lol. Really gets them going). I do ask about how they grew up if they were close to their parents, siblings (women LOVE talking about themselves and you can also gauge if you have damaged goods based on how they were raised). I do a little push-pull if I perceive some sort of childhood conflict or trauma (amazing how much they share if you just ask) so I'll be kind of sad with/for them, but then quickly spin into something positive and funny again. It's never boring this way. Another thing to do is to keep "peeling the onion." So when they start telling you about something (remember, women LOVE to talk) ask them "Really !? How so?", "Why?", or some sort of follow-up that keeps them talking. They will bond with you (CONNECTION is HUGE for every women, even plates). Once they feel "connected" you've won 75% of the battle. This can happen easily in one date if you do it right.

A word of caution: Resist the temptation to talk too much about yourself. Don't ever brag! Try to keep as much focused on the woman as possible. I've seen some very inexperienced men/boys post on SS and claim, "She talked so much!" YES! They do! Wake the f*uck up. Be glad you got her talking. That's what you WANT. It also builds mystery that she doesn't know that much about you. Give her little bits of info over time.

Word of caution II: Stay away from or dump super shy girls that cannot hold a conversation or have nothing to say, no matter how hot. DAMN they frustrate me. ME (thinking): "How can you have NOTHING to say about anything??!! Her: Staring at her drink/dinner all night despite my efforts. What could be worse...

Good luck.

~Dash

 

[corrector]

One of the biggest date fails I've had in the past, I asked the lady "so how many guys have you slept with?"

 

[Billtx49]

One of the biggest date fails I've had in the past, I asked the lady "so how many guys have you slept with?"

Yep, instant fail. An ASD driven so high you may never overcome it along with a dried up downstairs department after that question…
Only a full blown hoe would brush that one off and answer it.…

 

[wolf]

Yep, instant fail. An ASD driven so high you may never overcome it along with a dried up downstairs department after that question…
Only a full blown hoe would brush that one off and answer it.…

It' funny how many girls have tried to gauge how many girls I've had. I always respond with "I'm not playing that numbers game" beforw they proudly count all of their ex lovers on their one hand lol. Yeah right.

They usually tell me they think I've had alot but I say nothing and just move on.

 

[marmel75]

Yeah, I bet the psychologist who put together this list sure gets a laid a lot...LOL.

Most of these are horrible and some sound like you're on a f*ucking job interview. Nothing could be a bigger turnoff for women, or me if I was on the receiving end.

Remember: Women want to have FUN, whether it's the first date or 1000th date. So act FUN. Some things that get girls going on first or second dates are astrology (I always tell then my sign, Leo, and that I'm the KING of the zodiac and they could never handle me or it will never work because their sign is so inferior, lol. Really gets them going). I do ask about how they grew up if they were close to their parents, siblings (women LOVE talking about themselves and you can also gauge if you have damaged goods based on how they were raised). I do a little push-pull if I perceive some sort of childhood conflict or trauma (amazing how much they share if you just ask) so I'll be kind of sad with/for them, but then quickly spin into something positive and funny again. It's never boring this way. Another thing to do is to keep "peeling the onion." So when they start telling you about something (remember, women LOVE to talk) ask them "Really !? How so?", "Why?", or some sort of follow-up that keeps them talking. They will bond with you (CONNECTION is HUGE for every women, even plates). Once they feel "connected" you've won 75% of the battle. This can happen easily in one date if you do it right.

A word of caution: Resist the temptation to talk too much about yourself. Don't ever brag! Try to keep as much focused on the woman as possible. I've seen some very inexperienced men/boys post on SS and claim, "She talked so much!" YES! They do! Wake the f*uck up. Be glad you got her talking. That's what you WANT. It also builds mystery that she doesn't know that much about you. Give her little bits of info over time.

Word of caution II: Stay away from or dump super shy girls that cannot hold a conversation or have nothing to say, no matter how hot. DAMN they frustrate me. ME (thinking): "How can you have NOTHING to say about anything??!! Her: Staring at her drink/dinner all night despite my efforts. What could be worse...

Good luck.

~Dash

Well..I guess it depends of your personality. If you are a guy who is so serious that dating is a life and death struggle then yeah, you are going to be interviewing her.

If you are a fun loving guy who knows how to relax and ask questions in a fun way then no ot wont be. It will just be like having fun and finding out about each other.

It depends on personality, body language and intonation far more than the questions being asked. If you can't or dont know how to make it fun then it really doesnt matter what you do, it will be boring and by extension so will you.

These questions are designed to trigger a deep seated connection with a woman, if you don't see the use of that then I guess there is really nothing to discuss.

 

[Ryan]

Now these are actually good questions ........at least most of them..

 

[The Diver]

There are some great questions to ask your date, but take in account that she probably will ask you the same questions and expect answer. But me , I like keeping info to myself , staying mysterious to her. I like when 6 month down the road they say: "The Diver, 6 month and I still can't figure you out" .

 

[sosousage]

i always suvk at talk. probaby not more than @RichardTheFrog but I do.

basic job/study questions etc. even if I dont ask, they do