"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some chicks birthday is tomorrow

Maxtro

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The girl who sits behind me is turning 19 tomorrow. I'm thinking about giving her a funny / meanish card just to be different. My whole point is to show her and the girls that sit around me that I'm a cool funny guy.

Good idea or a bad idea? If it's a good idea what kind of card will work best?

I just got the idea that I'll tell her that I'll buy her lunch but that she has to order from the dollar menu :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she's 19..you're 26..if i were you i wouldn't even give her the time of day or night...but if you must, i would simply say happy b-day then be like how old are you 16 now or something like that haa..
 

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My age don't mean shlt. All the girls that go to college are 18-22 so if I swear that group off I'll get nothing. Also, they are soo fine at that age.

I want to make a "good impression" on her and the girls that sit around me.
 

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well sheeit, then id skip a b-day card altogether, seems to friendly...after class id ask her for her number and try and take her to a bar that doesnt card and have a fun night with her
 

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Thatfeel21 said:
well sheeit, then id skip a b-day card altogether, seems to friendly...after class id ask her for her number and try and take her to a bar that doesnt card and have a fun night with her
Yeah, a card seems too friendly to me.

Just say happy birthday, small talk, then tell her/suggest that you take her out to celebrate it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hmm two no's on the card. Even if it was pretty mean? I thought it would be a nice way to show some C & F.

I don't know her that well and if I took her out I'd want to to be very simple and casual.
 

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Maxtro said:
Hmm two no's on the card. Even if it was pretty mean? I thought it would be a nice way to show some C & F.

I don't know her that well and if I took her out I'd want to to be very simple and casual.
Even if the card was pretty mean, you had to be nice enough to get her one in the first place though. lol
It's all up to you though.

That why you'd take her out. To get to know her.
But if you're not up to that yet, what about lunch after class? coffee shop? Anything would do if she doesn't have a class right afterwards.
 

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Yeah nice enough to get a card but if the card was mean it shows that I'm not a total wuss either.

I was thinking about lunch after class. None of us have a class after that and we're all hungry.
 

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I got a friend of mine a "To my daughter" card with her gift on her b-day. It's purely a platonic friendship though, I wouldn't do her even if she's attractive. She's usually the person I goto if I need help commiting some immoral act as her percieved innocence gets us out of trouble almost always.

If you want it to go somewhere though, I'd suggest refraining from the card.
 

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to physically go out and buy a younger girl you're not poking a card? nahh thats way to friendly trust me...no matter how c&f you were gonnna be, card-buying is what chicks do for other chicks...assess your testosterone and act your age, ask her out
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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