Some chick

[sosousage]

So there's this chick on Tinder. I asked if she dated any boy from online dating and she said that she's getting invitations for a drink non-stop. It turned me off lol. Anyway I told her that a lot of girls chat with me but none invites me. Then she said that I(me) should do that first! So I said that she didn't want to date me when I asked her. She said I didnt write this message. She was right, I didnt. Then she continued "but if this is a little trick to invite me somewhere, then I agree". AHAHAHAH LOL.

I reminded the great Don Juan tips from this website about being Alpha and I replied her "Im going next sunday to church, you can come with me if you want".

Didnt hear from her since then. We are 24.

Do you think I was alpha or spoiled it. You can see the difference here is that I said if she WANTS TO COME THEN SHE CAN COME instead of asking if she will meet me. Im independant of her.

Another thing is that she wasnt "that hot" but she still had "tons of invitations" it bugs me inside and whatever. While you guys care only for HB10 I don't really care that much about look as long as its not ugly (or fat), but the thing that average women gets so many options is annoying.

So What I do with this chick?

 

[cola]

Your communication style with women is remedial.
Be more direct.

 

[Roober]

Why the he'll do you care about her other interactions with men? Stick to you and her and ask her out. Not to church....

 

[marmel75]

This has to be a troll

 

[sosousage]

Why the he'll do you care about her other interactions with men? Stick to you and her and ask her out. Not to church....

yea but what if they all have a car and I dont? what if their skin is tanned and my is not? and list continues. isnt it the eternal debate that women from OLD have sick requirements because they have options?

Your communication style with women is remedial.
Be more direct.

I couldnt agree more! You are reading from me like from open book. I always write in less direct style. I guess it turns women off? Alhrough some like it. As I noticed, 99% of guys on OLD just start a conversation (usually boring one) and in couple minutes since start they invite for a drink or a walk. IMO its too direct

This has to be a troll

No the church part was joke on my side. I got a lot of "you dont look like on this photo" "i prefer to text with ya than meet" failures on OLD and even some women ran from me after 30min even if I didnt do anything stupid/boring/whatever. thats why i play it flexible

 

[sph21]

Then she said that I(me) should do that first!

She's right. Men lead, women follow.

So I said that she didn't want to date me when I asked her.

You have a low self-esteem and you just told her that indirectly. You sabotaged yourself without knowing it.

Didnt hear from her since then. We are 24.

She knows enough about you. Why would she be attracted to you and respect you if you won't do what a man do which is being a leader for yourself.

I always write in less direct style. I guess it turns women off?

Yes, it turns them off.

Alhrough some like it.

Only masculine women like indirect men. If you want to attract feminine women, you have to become a masculine man. Less direct means you're not confident enough to get what you want. If you're not having enough self-confidence, then that means you don't have enough respect for yourself.

Self-confidence leads to self-respect, self-respect leads to attraction. A man who can lead himself (who has self-respect and self-confidence) is attractive to women because he's masculine. A masculine man is a challenge for any woman and force her to become feminine if she wants to win him. A feminine man makes a woman feels like a man, while a masculine man makes a woman feels like a woman. Every woman wants to feel like a woman. A masculine woman is less happy than a feminine woman and a feminine man is less happy than a masculine man.

This thread explained perfectly why you should always have enough self-respect. It can be applied to any girl and not just for a girlfriend.

 

[sosousage]

She's right. Men lead, women follow.


You have a low self-esteem and you just told her that indirectly. You sabotaged yourself without knowing it.


She knows enough about you. Why would she be attracted to you and respect you if you won't do what a man do which is being a leader for yourself.


Yes, it turns them off.


Only masculine women like indirect men. If you want to attract feminine women, you have to become a masculine man. Less direct means you're not confident enough to get what you want. If you're not having enough self-confidence, then that means you don't have enough respect for yourself.

Self-confidence leads to self-respect, self-respect leads to attraction. A man who can lead himself (who has self-respect and self-confidence) is attractive to women because he's masculine. A masculine man is a challenge for any woman and force her to become feminine if she wants to win him. A feminine man makes a woman feels like a man, while a masculine man makes a woman feels like a woman. Every woman wants to feel like a woman. A masculine woman is less happy than a feminine woman and a feminine man is less happy than a masculine man.

This thread explained perfectly why you should always have enough self-respect. It can be applied to any girl and not just for a girlfriend.

oh but dam that plate is still messagin me. what would you recommend to do with that plate

PS i will look into that thread, thanks!

 

[Harry Wilmington SLW]

Yeah, you came off as not very confident. But beyond that... even if the invite to church was a "joke," it's not one that reads well across text. Like, you were thinking you'd say that and she'd respond, and then you could reply back "ha ha, j/k." right? But in reality, every text you send early on needs to have a goal, which is to get her out on the date you ACTUALLY want, and there's not much room for jokey text that could be taken the wrong way. Once she knows your style of humor better (after having gone out with you a few times) THEN those kind of jokes will read better

 

[sosousage]

Yeah, you came off as not very confident. But beyond that... even if the invite to church was a "joke," it's not one that reads well across text. Like, you were thinking you'd say that and she'd respond, and then you could reply back "ha ha, j/k." right? But in reality, every text you send early on needs to have a goal, which is to get her out on the date you ACTUALLY want, and there's not much room for jokey text that could be taken the wrong way. Once she knows your style of humor better (after having gone out with you a few times) THEN those kind of jokes will read better

you registered just to say that? )))))

 

[MrJack]

Don't ever say "if you want" say "come with me to xxx" you aren't demanding you're simply telling her.

And yea the church thing was a dumb move lol. Maybe if you would've put a jokey smiley after it or something she would've realized it was a joke.

But as someone else said you shouldn't give a fuark that other guys are asking her out all the time, you should EXPECT that. Especially because it's tinder.