That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
excellent
Jamming that, I walk into a room feeling like a crisp hundred dollar bill.
No crinkles, no creases...ready to mingle and feel a little tingle
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Good way to embrace the cold. The cold is bracing and toughens like nothing else.I'm not into camping for the most part but I recently started up my winter mountaineering hikes and training ruck marches. Love getting out in this cold air with all my gear and stuff.
I hate sleeping in a tent -- just feel too vulnerable, to be honest -- but I love being in the wilderness. Hiking has been my go to over the years, but I've considered getting an offroad bicycle. Any experience?I'm not into camping for the most part but I recently started up my winter mountaineering hikes and training ruck marches. Love getting out in this cold air with all my gear and stuff.
Oh yeah. I was just telling two friends today that I need to take pictures of the crazy amount of rocks/rock scrambling I have to do on this mountain trail I'm focusing on. I can easily twist an ankle or break something on this one. Will see what happens in a few days.Good way to embrace the cold. The cold is bracing and toughens like nothing else.
Must be organised at packing your pack. Good skill to have.
If you take any interesting nature pictures, please share them here.
A decade ago, I went through a phase where I was taking cold showers, exclusively. I'd read somewhere that it was somehow healthy, and it seemed like a challenge, so fvck it, why not.Good way to embrace the cold. The cold is bracing and toughens like nothing else.
I'm seconding everything you just said. I would definitely find a sturdy mountain bike for yourself (and a helmet). A hardtail with the shocks up front. No need for dual-suspension unless you want to spend thousands or ride in serious enough terrain/go downhill mountain bicycling a lot. I started out riding BMX and racing a little bit, which is cool but I eventually grew up. Then I switched over to road bicycling pretty heavily, but that I DO NOT recommend with all the texting & driving, or whatever 100's of new distractions drivers are caught up in now. See what you can get because I was just told that the market for them is stiff amid this pandemic new or used. Go mountain biking or ride an assault bike at the gym if you need to lose a bunch of fat.I hate sleeping in a tent -- just feel to vulnerable, to be honest -- but I love being in the wilderness. Hiking has been my go to over the years, but I've considered getting an offroad bicycle. Any experience?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've tried the cold shower many times when we used to vacation in the logging woods on the Bay of Fundy every summer. Its certainly ok if you can go out in the sun right away.A decade ago, I went through a phase where I was taking cold showers, exclusively. I'd read somewhere that it was somehow healthy, and it seemed like a challenge, so fvck it, why not.
I only did it for a few months, but holy sh1t, I will never forget the experience. You wanna see a quick shower?! Lol
I still haven't tried a GoPro. That would be fun to relive a relaxing hike afterwards by watching it.Oh yeah. I was just telling two friends today that I need to take pictures of the crazy amount of rocks/rock scrambling I have to do on this mountain trail I'm focusing on. I can easily twist an ankle or break something on this one. Will see what happens in a few days.
Nah man, I'm already fit. I was just thinking it would be fun.I'm seconding everything you just said. I would definitely find a sturdy mountain bike for yourself (and a helmet). A hardtail with the shocks up front. No need for dual-suspension unless you want to spend thousands or ride in serious enough terrain/go downhill mountain bicycling a lot. I started out riding BMX and racing a little bit, which is cool but I eventually grew up. Then I switched over to road bicycling pretty heavily, but that I DO NOT recommend with all the texting & driving, or whatever 100's of new distractions drivers are caught up in now. See what you can get because I was just told that the market for them is stiff amid this pandemic new or used. Go mountain biking or ride an assault bike at the gym if you need to lose a bunch of fat.
I was also just getting into the stoics at the time, so I was finding ways to challenge myself, mostly by depriving myself of common necessities.I've tried the cold shower many times when we used to vacation in the logging woods on the Bay of Fundy every summer. Its certainly ok if you can go out in the sun right away.
Dipping into the Bay of Fundy itself was always cold too, even midsummer.
Cold water is a challenge all right.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Seneca said:The founder of the universe, who assigned to us the laws of life, provided that we should live well, but not in luxury. Everything needed for our well-being is right before us, whereas what luxury requires is gathered by many miseries and anxieties. Let us use this gift of nature and count it among the greatest things.
Yes.I was also just getting into the stoics at the time, so I was finding ways to challenge myself, mostly by depriving myself of common necessities.
I tried out intermittent fasting and counting calories (which I still do to this day). I also tried my hand -- or lack there of -- at not jacking off for about 3 months.
All good experiences, in hindsight. I learned a lot from them.
It's like Seneca says, and I'm paraphrasing here: it's not that you have to go without; it's about proving to yourself that you can.