"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Solo pretty boy ?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
PrettyBoyAJ
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Purefilth
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Dating a girl for 8 months and she is already his Fiancé at the age of 22? He's a grown man but he's not making grown ass mans decisions...
Making mistakes is something i can understand, but still letting emotions rule your world screams CHUMP! To me.
backbreaker
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we all make mistakesDedication said:
i'll say this; when i was 22 i had been on this site for 3 years and PBAJ is light years ahead of where i was at that age
PrettyBoyAJ
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My crazy ex used to fight me all the time and i used to grab her wrist and pin her on the bed until she calmed down. She would then proceed to bite and spit so i positioned our faces next to each other so she couldn't move it and mimicked her head movements so i couldn't get bitten or spit on.
You don't reason with someone who's gone mad/ape sh1t crazy, from my experience as it doesn't work. If there were just angry a bit and not throwing a tantrum then reasoning might work but in that instance for any person you don't try and reason. Fighting fire with fire also doesn't work either unless you want each other to get hurt (you went overboard with choking and hitting her back). It shows you lost frame and couldn't control yourself or your woman. You can either let them vent while your there and just not react at all (emotionally or physically) or the better bet is to just leave.
The goal is to let them cool down and become a reasonable person, and it's best to let them happen while your away so you don't have crazy sh1t happen to you.
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The relationship seems like it's beyond repair at this point. You've lost your frame multiple times by compromising yourself for her when she's given little to deserve it and letting her make you angry. On top of that, you didn't stand your ground against your own decisions and went back and apologized to her. Apologies, also from my experience show weakness of character because you feel the need to please the other person. If you're wrong, you most likely know it, and apology isn't going to fix that. I'll apologize if i know the relationship is over and i'll use it as a way to have an amiable parting.
PrettyBoyAJ
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Right now I'm looking stupid as anything. I moved back to this country town to be with her because she was doing school. She had planned on transferring in August to Georgia State and me and her were going to get an apartment together. Now she is talking about going back to this country school in August.
and I'm still wanting to move in Atlanta in the next three months. I'm looking so dumb right now. I have a job in this country town and everything. I don't know if I want to get this apartment in Atlanta without her or just live out here and when she comes back in August hope everything works out.
and don't worry. No matter what I refuse to react to her craziness anymore. Even though provoked, touching her was not the right thing to do.
But at that point what does apologizing do for you. It doesn't help you regain the frame, all it does is weaken your image in her eyes (i'm assuming your apologizing was in regards to texting the girl as the choking part has already destroyed the relationship). Your phone is your own personal business, you pay for it, so you manage it (don't let anyone say otherwise). You didn't even cheat on her, just texted. There was no need to explain yourself there.
Relationships are all about power plays like Game of Thrones or House of Cards. You never break you're frame even if you're wrong. Even if you did cheat, i'd rather acknowledge and play down the apology then to crawl back and beg her to come back.
"Yes, it happened. It wasn't something i planned. It was my mistake and it can't be undone."
I'd stand my ground there and ask her how she'd want to proceed. If you break the frame at this crucial of a point it will only go downhill there so i'd rather give her the opportunity to walk away if she can't accept it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PrettyBoyAJ
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If she can forget about it and move on from the situation then I'm down for it. If not then theres nothing more that I can do other then that. Probably find a video game to play to pass up my time or something. lol
backbreaker
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now every time you stay out a little late you are with 'that b!tch'. been there, wrote the book. on top of that you've handed her a get out of jail free card. if she's immature enough to beat teh **** out of you i assure you she's going to use that get out of jail free card. she probably won't set OUT to cheat but it never works like that. cute guy at school, all the friends go out for harmless drinks, one thing leads to antoher he lays his mack down, she says **** it, he did it why can't it. see in her mind, you ****ed her lol. there is nothing that you will ever do or say that will convince her otherwise.
she will never trust you again and you in turn are going to be overly protective. In a nutshell the frame of the relationship is lost you can't repair frame. it's done son.
I mean if you want to spin plates, spin the **** out of some plates. I'm all for it. but when you are in a LTR, this is all it takes buddy. it's over. This is why you spin plates to make sure that the girl that you end up dating is a girl you still want to exclusively **** 8 months later.
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As a DJ, you shouldn't be done talking about 'the situation'. You should be done with HER! Any kind of relationship with her, as friends or more/less is going to weigh you as a person down. No DJ would let another man or women weigh him down and that is why you should not engage with her ever again. And **** video games right now, of all the things you could be doing, playing video games should NOT be on the list.PrettyBoyAJ said:
I'm probably a ranting mother****er in your eyes, but people who are reading your **** know you are STILL ****ing up CURRENTLY! The thing is that its not about past mistakes, because as BB pointed out that we all make those, its about the fact that you are currently living out a mistake. Every choice you have made is the wrong choice as a DJ.
Who the **** do you want to be anyway? Maybe i'm taking the wrong approach because it appears to me that you want to become a *****whiped husband. If that actually is your dream and goal in life then i'm not helping you. Then i'm only posting this for people in similar situations as you but who do want to become a DJ.
PrettyBoyAJ
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I work 50+ hours a week anyway. Just going to focus on stacking my paper (BTW in 2 and a half months I've made 13,000 with this dealership). I need to focus more on work and take it seriously so I can move up to a manager.
Learn to keep your emotions in check and work on your anger management.
And remember: you might act violent in self-defense but, as soon as the waterworks begin on her part, you will always be the "abuser" in the eyes of the courtroom.
Better to avoid confrontation and potential litigation in this heavily fem-centric system...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.