"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Social Proof or Supplication

The_Lifter

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I'm a doorman at a club. There's a broad I'm looking to game, a HB7 - spectacular body with a comparatively non-spectacular face. She lives a few floors above me in my apartment block so she's seen me before in passing. A couple of days ago at the end of the night she came up, the conversation went like this:

Her: Hey, what's your name again?
Me: I don't think I've met you before ( This wasn't deliberate, I didn't actually recongnise her)
Her: I'm Sarah, I live above you...reels off address..I live with....
Me: Oh, yeah, I'm the_lifter, you're the girl that sent us a Christmas card right? (shaking the hand she offered, holding on to it longer than usual, making sure she notices)
Her: Yeah, that was us, did you put it somewhere special?
Me: Heh. Well, we put it on top of our T.V.

At this point I broke it off as it was kicking out time and I had to do my job. My question (finally) is that as I can get people in to the club area for free, should I have offered do that for her next time? I'm not sure whether this would be social proof (because I know the people who control access to the club) or is it a supplication (i.e I want to rail the living **** out of you, so here's a freebie to ease my passage). I know the conversation was pretty short, but where could I have improved.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Gonzalo

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Girl was being nice/ giving you IOIs. Why didn't you go for the number?
 

Docs

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lol, he lives below her, that's why he didn't get the number. I'm sure you'll see her again, and then you can say to stick around so we can get a bite to eat, kicking out people is hard work :D
 

El MonoLoco

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You see her again.....ask her to go out or even better over to your place....if your neighbors it won't be that awkward.
Don't just start offering her things....that's giving in....

Ask her out on a date to the place where u work on your day off...that way you can get free drinks and you'll feel like you own the place.....it will give your confidence a huge boost and she'll notice..
 
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