"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Social Proof or Supplication

The_Lifter

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I'm a doorman at a club. There's a broad I'm looking to game, a HB7 - spectacular body with a comparatively non-spectacular face. She lives a few floors above me in my apartment block so she's seen me before in passing. A couple of days ago at the end of the night she came up, the conversation went like this:

Her: Hey, what's your name again?
Me: I don't think I've met you before ( This wasn't deliberate, I didn't actually recongnise her)
Her: I'm Sarah, I live above you...reels off address..I live with....
Me: Oh, yeah, I'm the_lifter, you're the girl that sent us a Christmas card right? (shaking the hand she offered, holding on to it longer than usual, making sure she notices)
Her: Yeah, that was us, did you put it somewhere special?
Me: Heh. Well, we put it on top of our T.V.

At this point I broke it off as it was kicking out time and I had to do my job. My question (finally) is that as I can get people in to the club area for free, should I have offered do that for her next time? I'm not sure whether this would be social proof (because I know the people who control access to the club) or is it a supplication (i.e I want to rail the living **** out of you, so here's a freebie to ease my passage). I know the conversation was pretty short, but where could I have improved.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gonzalo

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Girl was being nice/ giving you IOIs. Why didn't you go for the number?
 

Docs

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lol, he lives below her, that's why he didn't get the number. I'm sure you'll see her again, and then you can say to stick around so we can get a bite to eat, kicking out people is hard work :D
 

El MonoLoco

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You see her again.....ask her to go out or even better over to your place....if your neighbors it won't be that awkward.
Don't just start offering her things....that's giving in....

Ask her out on a date to the place where u work on your day off...that way you can get free drinks and you'll feel like you own the place.....it will give your confidence a huge boost and she'll notice..
 
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