"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi Guys,
I know I am supposed to read the DJ Bible and Bootcamp before I post, but I have this situation-- Where I live almost everyone know me (as a dork). I have known these people since middle school; I never had any 'girl'-friends. I think this complex has followed me to high school: I was a loner during my freshman year & didn't talk to anyone except my usual friends(they're cool, but they don't play the dating game); during my sophmore year I was pretty cool and I had friends, I talked to girls (about school mostly, never casually). All that is in the past, but the problem is If I change anything about myself except for my looks I will come off as fake. Please Help!?!?!?!?!
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Depends what you mean by "change." If by change, you mean learning lines and "tactics," than YES, you will come off as being fake.

But if you build genuine confidence, warmth and social skills, than no, it won't be seen as "fake," merely growth.

But anyways, you shouldn't be so worried about how others see you. You were not brought on this earth to satisfy anyones expectations apart from your own.

Cheers!
 
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been thru thi dilemma myself, becoming who you want to be is something where what others think shouldnt be a prob, remember that you can just change a few things, and remember that youre developing your own style on this and that you wont be doing things you dont wnat to do.
 
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Levi said:
Hi Guys,
I know I am supposed to read the DJ Bible and Bootcamp before I post, but I have this situation-- Please Help!?!?!?!?!
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You know you should read, yet you choose not to.

You ask for help, but where is the question?

Your thread will soon be Closed or Deleted... Look out for the up & coming event.
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B-Lemond, I am 3/4's through the bible and the question is there. If two people responded to it, the question is definitely there.:crazy: :cheer: I definitely didn't like the tone of your post:nono:
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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