"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi Guys,
I know I am supposed to read the DJ Bible and Bootcamp before I post, but I have this situation-- Where I live almost everyone know me (as a dork). I have known these people since middle school; I never had any 'girl'-friends. I think this complex has followed me to high school: I was a loner during my freshman year & didn't talk to anyone except my usual friends(they're cool, but they don't play the dating game); during my sophmore year I was pretty cool and I had friends, I talked to girls (about school mostly, never casually). All that is in the past, but the problem is If I change anything about myself except for my looks I will come off as fake. Please Help!?!?!?!?!
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends what you mean by "change." If by change, you mean learning lines and "tactics," than YES, you will come off as being fake.

But if you build genuine confidence, warmth and social skills, than no, it won't be seen as "fake," merely growth.

But anyways, you shouldn't be so worried about how others see you. You were not brought on this earth to satisfy anyones expectations apart from your own.

Cheers!
 
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been thru thi dilemma myself, becoming who you want to be is something where what others think shouldnt be a prob, remember that you can just change a few things, and remember that youre developing your own style on this and that you wont be doing things you dont wnat to do.
 
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Levi said:
Hi Guys,
I know I am supposed to read the DJ Bible and Bootcamp before I post, but I have this situation-- Please Help!?!?!?!?!
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You know you should read, yet you choose not to.

You ask for help, but where is the question?

Your thread will soon be Closed or Deleted... Look out for the up & coming event.
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B-Lemond, I am 3/4's through the bible and the question is there. If two people responded to it, the question is definitely there.:crazy: :cheer: I definitely didn't like the tone of your post:nono:
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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