"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Social groups/singles nights/meetup.com

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'd like to hear more about this myself. I'm dealing with a nasty separation from my wife and I need to get some plates going for my own self-respect. I don't have any interest in bars, so I was thinking of getting involved in social groups on meetup.com, too.

Anybody have any experiences to share?
 

Von_S

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I've done a good amount of this stuff. It's hit or miss, in my experience there are a decent amount of single girls there, of course to varying degrees of attractiveness. Either way its a good way to just meet girls, try new game, up your social standing and make friends
 

konmai

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I started one back in late March. Since I lead, all the girls contact me. Not interested in anyone right now, just building a nice social proof of ladies & social skills. :rock: Being around lots of beautiful women helps with not falling all over myself, when I do cold approaches. You get used to being around them and socializing with them that it's just normal.

Interestingly a girl who was very much my type fell into my lap, when I was headed to one of these events back around April maybe. I posted about it here. If it wasn't for me doing this, I think I would have automatically put her on a pedestal but instead, I treated her like I would have anyone else which led to her wanting me. :yes:

Doubt I'd want a plate from one of these events, but it helps to put myself out there, so that I do bump into a girl I like, and I'll be ready with my A-game.
 

Leporello

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They're a great way to just get out there and meet a great number of people. Sure the quality varies widely but that's life.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CostaDeSol

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I've been to a few meetups. They're nice depending on what groups you go to.

Some groups are definitely just to find hook ups. And if you become one of the organizers you can increase your chances of adding plates.

most of the groups though are much more about just meeting people to hang out with. However this can be a good thing because they will invite you to their social events and you will get to increase your social circle.
 
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