"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Social groups/singles nights/meetup.com

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd like to hear more about this myself. I'm dealing with a nasty separation from my wife and I need to get some plates going for my own self-respect. I don't have any interest in bars, so I was thinking of getting involved in social groups on meetup.com, too.

Anybody have any experiences to share?
 

Von_S

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I've done a good amount of this stuff. It's hit or miss, in my experience there are a decent amount of single girls there, of course to varying degrees of attractiveness. Either way its a good way to just meet girls, try new game, up your social standing and make friends
 

konmai

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I started one back in late March. Since I lead, all the girls contact me. Not interested in anyone right now, just building a nice social proof of ladies & social skills. :rock: Being around lots of beautiful women helps with not falling all over myself, when I do cold approaches. You get used to being around them and socializing with them that it's just normal.

Interestingly a girl who was very much my type fell into my lap, when I was headed to one of these events back around April maybe. I posted about it here. If it wasn't for me doing this, I think I would have automatically put her on a pedestal but instead, I treated her like I would have anyone else which led to her wanting me. :yes:

Doubt I'd want a plate from one of these events, but it helps to put myself out there, so that I do bump into a girl I like, and I'll be ready with my A-game.
 

Leporello

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They're a great way to just get out there and meet a great number of people. Sure the quality varies widely but that's life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CostaDeSol

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I've been to a few meetups. They're nice depending on what groups you go to.

Some groups are definitely just to find hook ups. And if you become one of the organizers you can increase your chances of adding plates.

most of the groups though are much more about just meeting people to hang out with. However this can be a good thing because they will invite you to their social events and you will get to increase your social circle.
 
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