Social Experiment 3

[jaymo]

You're social experiment is causing her to like you.

If you only want her as a friend, it shouldn't matter. Besides, you can never know if she ACTUALLY likes you unless she outright says she does or starts doing things like kissing you.

 

[Vypros]

If you only want her as a friend, it shouldn't matter.

Actually it DOES matter, because if the girl is starting to like him and he's just playing around with an experiment he is going to HURT her.

Experiment or not, there comes a certain point where you should stop playing with her feelings. Nobody deserves that.

I admire the experiment, but you are dragging it out a little too long now.

 

[Reyaj]

I see this girl as only a friend

 

[Reyaj]

So I hung out with this girl and played pool a few days ago. Ill admit she looked good. She said I looked good too. Still as always I kept it strictly friends. She talked to me about a guy she was seeing and what not. I kept my cool and all. She even texted him while we were hanging out. I think this girl likes me though. She sent me a text after I went home saying she had a really good time. Ill have to hang out with her a little more get some fashion tips and then go out on the town with her and hit on other girls in front of her to see how she reacts

 

[MacAvoy]

Sounds like your not good enough friends with her to get any benefits. It doesn't sound like your even in the friends zone, your in the semi-interested but he keeps sluffing me off, so I'll keep him on the backburner as a backup in case he ever smartens up kinda thing.

 

[Reyaj]

MacAvoy

you may be right. But does it matter as long as I'm the one in control?

 

[oakraiderz2]

Expand your social network through her. Met her girl friends and lay them some pipe.

 

[Charm]

MacAvoy

you may be right. But does it matter as long as I'm the one in control?

This is a good experiment but what I don't hear about you doing is going out and constantly meeting new women. I'm not trying to bring you down here because your experiment is great as far as having a friend goes but expanding your social circle will expand your inner-world too (Scientifically proven). Ie. The brain creates new maps and connections and expands based on your external world also.

Have fun with this one and make sure you do get out and meet new babes.

-Subscribed to thread

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Don't sh!t where you eat.

 

[Reyaj]

Charm thanks for the advice. She doesn't have 2 many girlfiends. The ones she has I've met and they aren't that hot. Still I hear what you are saying.

She's referenced things like "so why arent u interested in me" but I always told her that we are good friends and I wouldnt want to jepordize that. She agreed and said the same thing.

But yeah the real test is going to be when I hit on other girls in front of her. Lets see if she can take it. vice versa too. I will have to keep my cool.

 

[Reyaj]

bump

 

[Touchout]

I see this girl as only a friend

No, you obviously don't, and am I the only one who was getting mad reading through that? In every single post you said something like "I admit I found her hot and was tempted"

I have a lot of female friends, actual friends who I treat like friends, and I feel that for their to be a true friendship you cant be attracted to each other. Now I'm not saying be friends with UGs (I'm certainly not), but only be friends with girls who you aren't attracted to, otherwise you give off this sexual vibe and give her wrong ideas, kind of like what your doing.

Now this doesn't always work, I had to stop hanging out with this HB8 because she was attracted to me, she was kind of like this girl your friends with, and I didn't want to lead her on.

 

[thefemaleperspective]

Sounds like your not good enough friends with her to get any benefits. It doesn't sound like your even in the friends zone, your in the semi-interested but he keeps sluffing me off, so I'll keep him on the backburner as a backup in case he ever smartens up kinda thing.

I have to agree. You post something new like after MONTHS. If you were really friends, you'd see her more than once every few months. This is a back burner relationship, nothing close to friendship.

But if you are having fun, whatever!

I wouldn't worry too much about "hurting" her, as long as you aren't leading her on, or giving her the impression that you want more. Seems to me you are keeping it clear that you are only interested in friendship.

 

[Reyaj]

Well she calls me her brother lol

but yeah I don't hang out with her that much cause I'm busy.

And I'm not attracted to her don't worry. I can say someone is attractive which she is but not want to jump their bones. But ok If I'm drinking and she rubs against me that's a different story!

Thanx for all the input!

 

[killbill]

thats cool, its better than nothing. who knows maybe she can give you some really good pointers.:rockon:

 

[Reyaj]

Well ok I have to admit I was really tested here last wednesday.

We went to grab a few drinks which I paid for. Then she invited me to the movies which she paid for. While we were hanging out she started talking to me about how her ex was such a nice guy and used to bring her flowers and what not. Then she told me something that made me feel weird. She said since her ex she's slept with 3 guys. The thing that made me feel weird was that she wasn't in a relationship with them. They were just dating.

For some reason after she said this I saw her differently. I thought for a moment that maybe I should just try hit it, but then I realized that I do appreciate her as a friend and the best thing was keeping it platonic.

I guess it just bothered me because I thought she was more consevative with her sexuality. I respected that she was in an LTR and had sex but didn't think she slept with the guys she had mentioned she was dating.

Anyway after I calmed down inside, we both talked about relationships and etc... It seemed like we really had a good time as friends.

So thus far it does seem possible to have a good friend who is female. However the real test is going to come when either her or I are flirting or getting with someone else in front of each other....

 

[Play the Game]

So this experiment is to prove that men and women can be friends?

All you seem to be doing is irritating her and dragging yourself deeper into friends zone.
Meanwhile you're slowly realizing you like her, while she gets fed up with you. Looks to me like Harry was right.
This is going to get REAL ugly when you guys start seeing each other with other people.

Experiment... lol nah more like torture or S&M for both of you.
Who knows, she might enjoy sodomy as well when the tables are turned and you like her.

Keep us updated, i wanna see how this pans out.

 

[Reyaj]

I don't think she's getting fed up with me... its nice to have a female friend dude. Its also showing good will power on my part not to cross that line when I've had some good opportunities too.

 

[Obliteraga]

How'd you meet this girl anyway?

 

[Reyaj]

At a club Per one my approaches in my journal