"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Social Circles Are The Best!

freshstartin2008

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OK, I posted before about girls approaching guys. I think one of the best, sure ways to get girls to approach and open first is by developing social circles. For example, the last two seminars I've taken, I've had a half dozen girls open me on the first day.

The commonality of the seminar allows girls to feel more comfortable being social with us guys. It's an automatic ice breaker.

I do have a question however.

First, since girls find it so easy to open and approach guys in seminars and in all social circle settings, why is there such an emphasis on "cold approaching?" Or, am I mistaken. Maybe girls DO NOT approach guys even in social circle situations like seminars? What's up with that?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ready123

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seminars have nothing to do with social circles. social circles = your friends socially proofing you, letting you draw state off them. you getting opened on the first day of class is something different

and why cold approaching vs social circle game? social circle game is like alcohol - it temporarily hides your inner game deficiencies. you're drawing state off external things (having your friends around, being drunk) instead of yourself
 

Snow Plowman

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You have the term social circle all mixed up...

Anywho...the emphasis is on cold approaching because you are learning to meet a TOTAL STRANGER anywhere at anytime...so with that said your options are limitless...as opposed to other ways...you have to rely on what's there...

If you know how to cold approach then everything else is 100x easier...
 

macallik

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^^^what he said. Social circles are cool if the people you know are hot and sexy but what about that cutie you see walking down the street randomly on a Saturday afternoon?
 

freshstartin2008

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What I mean by social circles are groups of people who either are already friends or become friends by meeting for a common purpose, like an organization. The benefit here is that these types of meeting places allow for people to gradually get to know each other. It has reduced flakage MASSIVELY, if you know what I mean.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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