"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Social Circles Are The Best!

freshstartin2008

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OK, I posted before about girls approaching guys. I think one of the best, sure ways to get girls to approach and open first is by developing social circles. For example, the last two seminars I've taken, I've had a half dozen girls open me on the first day.

The commonality of the seminar allows girls to feel more comfortable being social with us guys. It's an automatic ice breaker.

I do have a question however.

First, since girls find it so easy to open and approach guys in seminars and in all social circle settings, why is there such an emphasis on "cold approaching?" Or, am I mistaken. Maybe girls DO NOT approach guys even in social circle situations like seminars? What's up with that?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ready123

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seminars have nothing to do with social circles. social circles = your friends socially proofing you, letting you draw state off them. you getting opened on the first day of class is something different

and why cold approaching vs social circle game? social circle game is like alcohol - it temporarily hides your inner game deficiencies. you're drawing state off external things (having your friends around, being drunk) instead of yourself
 

Snow Plowman

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You have the term social circle all mixed up...

Anywho...the emphasis is on cold approaching because you are learning to meet a TOTAL STRANGER anywhere at anytime...so with that said your options are limitless...as opposed to other ways...you have to rely on what's there...

If you know how to cold approach then everything else is 100x easier...
 

macallik

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^^^what he said. Social circles are cool if the people you know are hot and sexy but what about that cutie you see walking down the street randomly on a Saturday afternoon?
 

freshstartin2008

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What I mean by social circles are groups of people who either are already friends or become friends by meeting for a common purpose, like an organization. The benefit here is that these types of meeting places allow for people to gradually get to know each other. It has reduced flakage MASSIVELY, if you know what I mean.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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