Social Circle

[zekko]

I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly. I'm not so sure I agree.

To me, there is one distinct advantage to picking a girl from your social circle: You have some idea of what the girl is like, her character, personality, etc.

If you pick up a random woman off the street or in a bar or whatever, the chances of her being fairly compatible with you are probably astronomical. Especially if you are like me and are rather picky about their personalities. There's a fairly narrow spectrum of women that I find suitable.

Of course, if you're just looking for a quick bang, like most of the community, it doesn't really matter. And when I speak of social circle here, I mean your general circle of acquaintences, not a close knit group.

 

[Jitterbug]

I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly

Sounds like your latest strawman, Mr zekko.

In my years here, this is the first time I've ever heard of it.

 

[zekko]

I've read that it is looked down upon because it is the way AFCs meet girls, as opposed to the "alpha" way of cold approaching. Which gives you wider choice.

 

[ElChoclo]

It's looked down upon for the same reason that incest is looked down upon.

 

[sstype]

I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly. I'm not so sure I agree.

To me, there is one distinct advantage to picking a girl from your social circle: You have some idea of what the girl is like, her character, personality, etc.

If you pick up a random woman off the street or in a bar or whatever, the chances of her being fairly compatible with you are probably astronomical. Especially if you are like me and are rather picky about their personalities. There's a fairly narrow spectrum of women that I find suitable.

Of course, if you're just looking for a quick bang, like most of the community, it doesn't really matter. And when I speak of social circle here, I mean your general circle of acquaintences, not a close knit group.

If you're looking for an LTR, social circles are ideal for the reasons you mentioned.

I wouldn't use it to try and pick-up women though. You can very quickly get labelled a sleazeball hitting on multiple women in the same group. It all depends on the group, most friends/acquaintances I roll with tend to be pretty conservative socially. People here "date" not "hook-up." In a social circle filled with party animals/bar-hoppers...I don't think it matters as much.

 

[zekko]

If you're looking for an LTR, social circles are ideal for the reasons you mentioned.

I wouldn't use it to try and pick-up women though. You can very quickly get labelled a sleazeball hitting on multiple women in the same group. It all depends on the group, most friends/acquaintances I roll with tend to be pretty conservative socially. People here "date" not "hook-up." In a social circle filled with party animals/bar-hoppers...I don't think it matters as much.

Yes, well that makes sense.

Sometimes I forget that the main focus here is on random hookups.
This is probably a function of getting older, but I find that I don't enjoy the prospect of spending time with women that I don't really like. It was fine when I was a younger because I just wanted to get a nut - any warm body would do.

 

[samspade]

I never liked dating in my social circle, because I don't need my social circle to know about my dating life and vice versa. Also breakups can make it awkward. I think it's much preferable to find a woman outside one's circle - but I don't believe one is any more AFC/Alpha than the other, or what have you. Just a preference.