"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly. I'm not so sure I agree.

To me, there is one distinct advantage to picking a girl from your social circle: You have some idea of what the girl is like, her character, personality, etc.

If you pick up a random woman off the street or in a bar or whatever, the chances of her being fairly compatible with you are probably astronomical. Especially if you are like me and are rather picky about their personalities. There's a fairly narrow spectrum of women that I find suitable.

Of course, if you're just looking for a quick bang, like most of the community, it doesn't really matter. And when I speak of social circle here, I mean your general circle of acquaintences, not a close knit group.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly
Sounds like your latest strawman, Mr zekko.

In my years here, this is the first time I've ever heard of it.
 

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I've read that it is looked down upon because it is the way AFCs meet girls, as opposed to the "alpha" way of cold approaching. Which gives you wider choice.
 

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It's looked down upon for the same reason that incest is looked down upon.
 

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zekko said:
I notice it's considered "chode-like" here to get a woman out of your social circle, partly because it's too easy - it's picking low hanging fruit supposedly. I'm not so sure I agree.

To me, there is one distinct advantage to picking a girl from your social circle: You have some idea of what the girl is like, her character, personality, etc.

If you pick up a random woman off the street or in a bar or whatever, the chances of her being fairly compatible with you are probably astronomical. Especially if you are like me and are rather picky about their personalities. There's a fairly narrow spectrum of women that I find suitable.

Of course, if you're just looking for a quick bang, like most of the community, it doesn't really matter. And when I speak of social circle here, I mean your general circle of acquaintences, not a close knit group.
If you're looking for an LTR, social circles are ideal for the reasons you mentioned.

I wouldn't use it to try and pick-up women though. You can very quickly get labelled a sleazeball hitting on multiple women in the same group. It all depends on the group, most friends/acquaintances I roll with tend to be pretty conservative socially. People here "date" not "hook-up." In a social circle filled with party animals/bar-hoppers...I don't think it matters as much.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sstype said:
If you're looking for an LTR, social circles are ideal for the reasons you mentioned.

I wouldn't use it to try and pick-up women though. You can very quickly get labelled a sleazeball hitting on multiple women in the same group. It all depends on the group, most friends/acquaintances I roll with tend to be pretty conservative socially. People here "date" not "hook-up." In a social circle filled with party animals/bar-hoppers...I don't think it matters as much.
Yes, well that makes sense.

Sometimes I forget that the main focus here is on random hookups.
This is probably a function of getting older, but I find that I don't enjoy the prospect of spending time with women that I don't really like. It was fine when I was a younger because I just wanted to get a nut - any warm body would do.
 
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