"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How long would you wait to shatter his fantasy of girls as Disney movie characters?

Would you wait until 5 to tell him the truth? 10? 15?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'd let him figure it out as he goes, gently guiding him if he goes too far off course.

There's no better teacher than experience. If hypothetical son was repeating mistakes or struggling in his search for answers, I'd share the wisdom I've gained from my life - but only so much, as my wisdom is tainted by own experiences and he could be on a very different path than I ever was.
 

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I'll give him the DJ Bible the moment he comes out of the womb.
 

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Kids are a clean slate and if they are not programmed by their environment then they will never get those ideas. You could always not buy Disney movies and opt for other kid entertainment. Its almost impossible though to escape these ideas though as it is pervasive in all media. I just went to Disney World with my little niece who is 5. The thing to do now is to dress all these little girls in princess gowns. It starts early. Yes, they are little kids, and it is all in fun but the message gets reinforced throughout their growth into adulthood by Daddy, media, and popular culture. If its a pretty girl who gets a lot of attention then now you might have a monster on your hands.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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