You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.AAAgent said:sounds like a great business idea if its a something part time. Just give out your cell phone number, post some ad's in the newspaper, market through friends, family, etc. Print flyers and post them in local shops and see how it goes. Worse thing to happen is you lose a few bucks advertising. you don't need to rent space or really buy equipment, no employee's, basically you have no overhead and don't need to manage much except your clients.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, true. I'm thinking self-employment with a potential to be a business later.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I used to fix computers for a living and I'd really encourage you to learn how to troubleshoot and fix hardware too. If you have good working knowledge of software, hardware, and networking you'll be able to diagnose almost anything. What you'll find is as long as you don't have to order parts, you'll make a good amount of money.Alle_Gory said:Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.
And a website helps.
What I'm interested in:
I would be charging for consultation. $15-20 just to look at the problem. Gas and travel is pricey. Good idea?
What happens if someone does not want to pay?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I'm not saying that working for yourself isn't better than working for someone else cause hands down it IS, but if your income is 100% dependent upon your active involvement it is more of a job than a business, and it can be tough at times because as the owner you not only have to deal with tasks at hand but you also have to worry about the money, the books, taxes, etc.
Go for it....just understand what you are getting yourself into.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
THANK YOU!!dbot said:I started a company a couple years ago. Internet service fullfilment. Incorporate right away. If your company is mobile or virtual, go for a Nevada S-Corp or LLC, and you won't have to pay taxes. Never do business under your own name, unless you want to get sued and lose your personal assets. I learned this the hard way.
Don't get confused here.Julian said:Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.
Alle_Gory said:THANK YOU!!
This is the kind of stuff I'm looking for. What is a Nevada S-Corp? I'm in Canada, so if you know what category of business it is maybe we have the same thing here.
Also, what about other liabilities. Let's say I mess up someone's computer, or it breaks through no fault of my own and the customer goes ape-****.
I know, but the systems are very close. The advice is still useful.AAAgent said:since your in canada, canadian laws differ from u.s.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.