You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.AAAgent said:sounds like a great business idea if its a something part time. Just give out your cell phone number, post some ad's in the newspaper, market through friends, family, etc. Print flyers and post them in local shops and see how it goes. Worse thing to happen is you lose a few bucks advertising. you don't need to rent space or really buy equipment, no employee's, basically you have no overhead and don't need to manage much except your clients.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, true. I'm thinking self-employment with a potential to be a business later.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I used to fix computers for a living and I'd really encourage you to learn how to troubleshoot and fix hardware too. If you have good working knowledge of software, hardware, and networking you'll be able to diagnose almost anything. What you'll find is as long as you don't have to order parts, you'll make a good amount of money.Alle_Gory said:Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.
And a website helps.
What I'm interested in:
I would be charging for consultation. $15-20 just to look at the problem. Gas and travel is pricey. Good idea?
What happens if someone does not want to pay?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I'm not saying that working for yourself isn't better than working for someone else cause hands down it IS, but if your income is 100% dependent upon your active involvement it is more of a job than a business, and it can be tough at times because as the owner you not only have to deal with tasks at hand but you also have to worry about the money, the books, taxes, etc.
Go for it....just understand what you are getting yourself into.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
THANK YOU!!dbot said:I started a company a couple years ago. Internet service fullfilment. Incorporate right away. If your company is mobile or virtual, go for a Nevada S-Corp or LLC, and you won't have to pay taxes. Never do business under your own name, unless you want to get sued and lose your personal assets. I learned this the hard way.
Don't get confused here.Julian said:Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.
Alle_Gory said:THANK YOU!!
This is the kind of stuff I'm looking for. What is a Nevada S-Corp? I'm in Canada, so if you know what category of business it is maybe we have the same thing here.
Also, what about other liabilities. Let's say I mess up someone's computer, or it breaks through no fault of my own and the customer goes ape-****.
I know, but the systems are very close. The advice is still useful.AAAgent said:since your in canada, canadian laws differ from u.s.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.