You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.AAAgent said:sounds like a great business idea if its a something part time. Just give out your cell phone number, post some ad's in the newspaper, market through friends, family, etc. Print flyers and post them in local shops and see how it goes. Worse thing to happen is you lose a few bucks advertising. you don't need to rent space or really buy equipment, no employee's, basically you have no overhead and don't need to manage much except your clients.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah, true. I'm thinking self-employment with a potential to be a business later.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I used to fix computers for a living and I'd really encourage you to learn how to troubleshoot and fix hardware too. If you have good working knowledge of software, hardware, and networking you'll be able to diagnose almost anything. What you'll find is as long as you don't have to order parts, you'll make a good amount of money.Alle_Gory said:Exactly. All I need is a USB key full of diagnostic software. Which I already have since my family insists on buying cheap, flaky hardware! I've had too much practice already.
And a website helps.
What I'm interested in:
I would be charging for consultation. $15-20 just to look at the problem. Gas and travel is pricey. Good idea?
What happens if someone does not want to pay?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.STR8UP said:Keep in mind that you aren't really talking about a "business", it's "self employment".
I'm not saying that working for yourself isn't better than working for someone else cause hands down it IS, but if your income is 100% dependent upon your active involvement it is more of a job than a business, and it can be tough at times because as the owner you not only have to deal with tasks at hand but you also have to worry about the money, the books, taxes, etc.
Go for it....just understand what you are getting yourself into.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
THANK YOU!!dbot said:I started a company a couple years ago. Internet service fullfilment. Incorporate right away. If your company is mobile or virtual, go for a Nevada S-Corp or LLC, and you won't have to pay taxes. Never do business under your own name, unless you want to get sued and lose your personal assets. I learned this the hard way.
Don't get confused here.Julian said:Self employment can still be considered a business. Its called a sole proprietorship.
Alle_Gory said:THANK YOU!!
This is the kind of stuff I'm looking for. What is a Nevada S-Corp? I'm in Canada, so if you know what category of business it is maybe we have the same thing here.
Also, what about other liabilities. Let's say I mess up someone's computer, or it breaks through no fault of my own and the customer goes ape-****.
I know, but the systems are very close. The advice is still useful.AAAgent said:since your in canada, canadian laws differ from u.s.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.