"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So,what's up?

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Haven't posted on here in a while. Not much new to say. Other than I am looking into therapy. I have lots of questions as usual,but won't get into it right now. Other than I feel like my thoughts contradict one another,esp when it comes to figuring out stuff discussed on here.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SuavePlaya

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Hows therapy working for you? When a person grows their new beliefs contradict with their old ones.
 
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I haven't started yet. I am trying to set something up. Is that all it is,changing beliefs? This concerns me,cause I may have a problem doing that.
 

ready123

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your problem is you won't take action, it's simple as that

if someone canceled your internet and removed all the other crap in your life that gives you you the means to waste time feeling sorry for your self, your life would magically improve because you'd actually have to do something with your life instead of mindfvck yourself

but seems like you don't want it bad enough. so have fun sitting in your bubble
 
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