long story short, i meet a girl about a month ago at a party back home. Only hung out with her then and at another party a couple days later, but after talking to her here and there she came to visit me at school which is a 250 mile drive. after she left i get a text basically saying she wanted to date me but it wouldnt work because of the distance. I agree, but would still like to keep options open, and honestly if we lived closer i wouldnt hesitate to get exclusive with her, shes one of the better ones for sure. any advise on what to tell her to keep an open relationship?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
so this girl wants to date me, except we live too far apart.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
You just said you can't date her because of the distance.. so I don't get what you're trying say... an open relationship still means its a relationship and it'll still be long distance.
i know, im kinda conflicted on this one heh. i know long distance relationships hardly ever work out, but at the same time my gut is telling me to go for it. part of it is that ive never been in a ldr, so i dont have first hand experience of it going bad. we'll see, ill sleep on it and figure it out tomorrowsplinterkb said:You just said you can't date her because of the distance.. so I don't get what you're trying say... an open relationship still means its a relationship and it'll still be long distance.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
I could see a long distance relationship working if you guys were together at the start and for a bit and then it turned into a long distance.. but just starting out at one sounds like you guys would have a hard time getting to know eachother... and if you've never had one.. it sucks not being able to see the girl when you want to.
Text her back: "You're right, it wouldn't work because of the distance. Next time you are in town give me a call and we'll go dance at the best bar in town."jvick said:long story short, i meet a girl about a month ago at a party back home. Only hung out with her then and at another party a couple days later, but after talking to her here and there she came to visit me at school which is a 250 mile drive. after she left i get a text basically saying she wanted to date me but it wouldnt work because of the distance. I agree, but would still like to keep options open, and honestly if we lived closer i wouldnt hesitate to get exclusive with her, shes one of the better ones for sure. any advise on what to tell her to keep an open relationship?
Dude, she's already said no the relationship because of the distance and you are forcing the issue, almost begging her to accept an open relationship. You have made your intentions known that you want to sleep with her and she has refused. You have to let her come to YOU now.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ya i can totally see that. however in the context of other stuff she said i get the vibe shes fishing for a ldr without explicitly saying it, expecting/hoping ill initiate it. i dont think i will though, with some other stuff she did im sorta over the whole thing.DonJuan11 said:Text her back: "You're right, it wouldn't work because of the distance. Next time you are in town give me a call and we'll go dance at the best bar in town."
Dude, she's already said no the relationship because of the distance and you are forcing the issue, almost begging her to accept an open relationship. You have made your intentions known that you want to sleep with her and she has refused. You have to let her come to YOU now.