long story short, i meet a girl about a month ago at a party back home. Only hung out with her then and at another party a couple days later, but after talking to her here and there she came to visit me at school which is a 250 mile drive. after she left i get a text basically saying she wanted to date me but it wouldnt work because of the distance. I agree, but would still like to keep options open, and honestly if we lived closer i wouldnt hesitate to get exclusive with her, shes one of the better ones for sure. any advise on what to tell her to keep an open relationship?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
so this girl wants to date me, except we live too far apart.
- Thread starter jvick
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
You just said you can't date her because of the distance.. so I don't get what you're trying say... an open relationship still means its a relationship and it'll still be long distance.
i know, im kinda conflicted on this one heh. i know long distance relationships hardly ever work out, but at the same time my gut is telling me to go for it. part of it is that ive never been in a ldr, so i dont have first hand experience of it going bad. we'll see, ill sleep on it and figure it out tomorrowsplinterkb said:You just said you can't date her because of the distance.. so I don't get what you're trying say... an open relationship still means its a relationship and it'll still be long distance.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
I could see a long distance relationship working if you guys were together at the start and for a bit and then it turned into a long distance.. but just starting out at one sounds like you guys would have a hard time getting to know eachother... and if you've never had one.. it sucks not being able to see the girl when you want to.
Text her back: "You're right, it wouldn't work because of the distance. Next time you are in town give me a call and we'll go dance at the best bar in town."jvick said:long story short, i meet a girl about a month ago at a party back home. Only hung out with her then and at another party a couple days later, but after talking to her here and there she came to visit me at school which is a 250 mile drive. after she left i get a text basically saying she wanted to date me but it wouldnt work because of the distance. I agree, but would still like to keep options open, and honestly if we lived closer i wouldnt hesitate to get exclusive with her, shes one of the better ones for sure. any advise on what to tell her to keep an open relationship?
Dude, she's already said no the relationship because of the distance and you are forcing the issue, almost begging her to accept an open relationship. You have made your intentions known that you want to sleep with her and she has refused. You have to let her come to YOU now.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ya i can totally see that. however in the context of other stuff she said i get the vibe shes fishing for a ldr without explicitly saying it, expecting/hoping ill initiate it. i dont think i will though, with some other stuff she did im sorta over the whole thing.DonJuan11 said:Text her back: "You're right, it wouldn't work because of the distance. Next time you are in town give me a call and we'll go dance at the best bar in town."
Dude, she's already said no the relationship because of the distance and you are forcing the issue, almost begging her to accept an open relationship. You have made your intentions known that you want to sleep with her and she has refused. You have to let her come to YOU now.