"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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so there's this girl at my work I like...no clue how to say hi.

MascaraSnake

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I work at a food stand and make the food, she works at a separate register fairly far from it. She never looks over towards us, but I'm finding it a little hard to stop looking towards her (this isn't constant, but she's right there, front and to the left).

And she can tell I've been looking, I know it. Often times I'll shoot a gaze in her general direction (seeing if any customers are coming, whatever) and she'll make one of those instinctive head-pans towards me as if it's a reflex.

I've come up to her off duty and ordered food to gauge her reaction. Here was today's:

*walk up with food*
Me: Hey, what's up?
Her: (NO RESPONSE. She just scans my card.)
Me: ...
Her: That'll be 1.25.
Me: OK, have a good one.
Her: (no response)

She is very good looking, but a more quiet good looking: she's obviously not the loud girl in her group. This is killing me, since I tend to date blazing extroverts and I make conversation with EVERYONE.

At this point I'm convinced I'm just the leering weirdo at her workplace, but is there any way I can at least break the ice here? Damage might have already been done.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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trickerp

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compliment her on something, ex: i like your hair, and then draw it back with something like "but it doesnt match with your dress" if shes worth it she'll giggle, if not she'll just continue doing w/e she's doing.
 

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*walk up with food*
Me: Hey, what's up?
Her: (NO RESPONSE. She just scans my card.)
Me: ...
Her: That'll be 1.25.
Me: sorry?
Her: That'll be 1.25.
Me:how much extra for a smile?
Her: That'll be 1.25.
Me: so 2:50 then?
at this point she might get awkward, if she does give her the money and next!
if she engages then tease her about how hard it was to get a smile out of someone who naturally wants to smile but is truing to resist, why is she doing that? she is letting you down etc..
 

bluenorther

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I decided this is going to be my basic pickup line:

"Hey, when are you gonna ask me for my phone number?"

Or

"Hey, when are you going to ask me my name?"

Chances are, she'll act all flustered and go "Because I want you to ask first."

Game on.
 

Crissco

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Ide say dont give her the time of day for a little while. Act like your not interested in her one bit.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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