"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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so the first time you have sex with a girl...

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Should you cuddle with her and talk about feelings, etc? I LOVE doing that ****, honestly. I enjoy it almost as much as sex.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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cuddling is fine but sharing emotions? ... bro sorry but that kinda sound gay lol
 
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sorry dude, i enjoy connecting with women, it makes the sex better.
 
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After you have been seeing her for a while maybe, but vomiting your feelings all over her the first time you hook up is not going to help.

You need some so she doesn't feel like a cheap slvt, just don't go overboard, Remember you hardly know her.

Cuddling is ok, but don't delude yourself it is as good as pounding your 10 inch jackhammer into her tight pvssy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you are a lesbian, I guess it's allright, unless you are supposed to be the butch, there.
 
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blueline said:
Should you cuddle with her and talk about feelings, etc?
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That's what her stuffed animals are for.
 
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blueline said:
sorry dude, i enjoy connecting with women, it makes the sex better.
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Well if you like it, then why are you asking others about it? Cuddle away.

I don't know what feelings there are to talk about. Other than being hungry or sleepy. But maybe that's just because I'm a man.
 
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You got it half right. Women want you to hold them after sex, but more importantly they want you to SHUT UP. No one wants to hear about your stupid feelings, especially the girl who just let you fvck her. The more you talk, the worse she will feel about having had sex with you.

Women like not knowing every detail about you, because if they like you, then they can fill in the blanks with imagined, romance novel perfection. If you'll just be quiet after sex, she'll lay there and think about how great you are. Talking ruins it.
 
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There are better ways to make a girl not feel like a slut. None of them involve talking.

Finally, if you're doing your job right, the girl should feel lucky/happy to have slept with you. Not like a slut. More like "I hit the jackpot!" Only replace "jackpot" with "g spot."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bible_Belt said:
You got it half right. Women want you to hold them after sex, but more importantly they want you to SHUT UP. No one wants to hear about your stupid feelings, especially the girl who just let you fvck her. The more you talk, the worse she will feel about having had sex with you.

Women like not knowing every detail about you, because if they like you, then they can fill in the blanks with imagined, romance novel perfection. If you'll just be quiet after sex, she'll lay there and think about how great you are. Talking ruins it.
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this right here! :up:
 
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Bible_Belt said:
You got it half right. Women want you to hold them after sex, but more importantly they want you to SHUT UP. No one wants to hear about your stupid feelings, especially the girl who just let you fvck her. The more you talk, the worse she will feel about having had sex with you.

Women like not knowing every detail about you, because if they like you, then they can fill in the blanks with imagined, romance novel perfection. If you'll just be quiet after sex, she'll lay there and think about how great you are. Talking ruins it.
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well, you got it



to OP: even better: don't hold them straight away but wait a little. So she has time to want it. So wait a little then tell her, come here. You can also don't say, do anything and let her come into your arms, then hold her.
I'm a girl and i know that we don't like when a guy shows needyness, especially the first time we have sex with them. We love when the guy is sexual desire and **** us but we also like when his affection is hard to get. We don't like distance either, cause we'd think the guy is just empty inside. So you need to find the right middle
 
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Rollo Tomassi said:
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Funny! I just about spit pop all over my monitor!

Could cuddle with one of her cats I suppose. They don't give a sh!t about your feelings, but do like to be held.
 
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blueline said:
Should you cuddle with her and talk about feelings, etc? I LOVE doing that ****, honestly. I enjoy it almost as much as sex.
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In a word, no. For starters, less is more. And if you charge straight in with the feelings crap you risk coming across as a stage 5 wuss/clinger. Women might want that sort of behavior from a guy, but it's now what they respond well to.

This sums things up way better than I ever could:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/07/16/why-you-should-leave-after-sex/
 
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Need more info. man. This girl a ONS, current/new plate, has she hinted at a LTR, what?

Here's my take on it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BBbardot said:
well, you got it



to OP: even better: don't hold them straight away but wait a little. So she has time to want it. So wait a little then tell her, come here. You can also don't say, do anything and let her come into your arms, then hold her.
I'm a girl and i know that we don't like when a guy shows needyness, especially the first time we have sex with them. We love when the guy is sexual desire and **** us but we also like when his affection is hard to get. We don't like distance either, cause we'd think the guy is just empty inside. So you need to find the right middle
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You are 17 ***** you don't know what you want.....you are a kid lol
 
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BBbardot said:
well, you got it



to OP: even better: don't hold them straight away but wait a little. So she has time to want it. So wait a little then tell her, come here. You can also don't say, do anything and let her come into your arms, then hold her.
I'm a girl and i know that we don't like when a guy shows needyness, especially the first time we have sex with them. We love when the guy is sexual desire and **** us but we also like when his affection is hard to get. We don't like distance either, cause we'd think the guy is just empty inside. So you need to find the right middle
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how many guys have you slept with and when have you had sex for the first time?
 
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ChalengeGuyFan said:
how many guys have you slept with and when have you had sex for the first time?
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Bardot is one hot French chick. We have skyped a lot. She sings to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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