So, she took the initiative and asked me out?

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

We had sex for the first time after our 2nd date. Sex happens after every date now. We're constantly mixing it up. She likes a lot of things that I do, and it's nice to have a girl who moves with you for once and I like her cute groans...

Your OP makes it seem like y'all met for the first time and she asked you out immediately after the first date.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Your OP makes it seem like y'all met for the first time and she asked you out immediately after the first date.

I don't know how you've read it that way.

Even if she had asked me out straight away... what's the big deal?

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I don't know how you've read it that way.

Even if she had asked me out straight away... what's the big deal?

theres a huge difference between pre sex and post sex amigo

 

[2Rocky]

Your OP makes it seem like y'all met for the first time and she asked you out immediately after the first date.

I kinda read it that way too. Now that you are in a SEXUAL relationship, I think you are doing good...

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I don't know how you've read it that way.

Even if she had asked me out straight away... what's the big deal?

The OP headline reads "asked me out", which strongly implies the pre-sex dating stage. If you're already having sex, there's no "asking".

 

[Sgthaytham]

Your OP makes it seem like y'all met for the first time and she asked you out immediately after the first date.

Ok, yeah, I suppose it does. Well we've been dating for just over a month.

 

[member160292]

Who cares?

I won't lie, it's a bit difficult to keep my emotional self control in check, but I know it's the way to go.

OP kept his emotions in check and was able to secure the lay. Kudos

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ok, yeah, I suppose it does. Well we've been dating for just over a month.

That's kinda normal behavior, not sure why you feel this is a huge deal.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

What do you mean by 'aggressive'?

I’ll throw in my definition.
‘Girl openly and without ambiguity expresses sexual desire for you.’
3 examples: 1) I met a student at my work (she was on a site visit). I gave her my card. She called me that day & started telling me what kind of sex she is into. 2) my first Tinder date. We were taking Uber & she started massaging my inner thigh. 3) girl at my work complained to me about a pimple. I told her, “try Clearasil’. She replied ; ‘or you could splooge on my face.’

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Your OP makes it seem like y'all met for the first time and she asked you out immediately after the first date.

That’s what I thought. OP’s already dating her. So I don’t think it’s a big deal.

 

[Sgthaytham]

I’ll throw in my definition.
‘Girl openly and without ambiguity expresses sexual desire for you.’
3 examples: 1) I met a student at my work (she was on a site visit). I gave her my card. She called me that day & started telling me what kind of sex she is into. 2) my first Tinder date. We were taking Uber & she started massaging my inner thigh. 3) girl at my work complained to me about a pimple. I told her, “try Clearasil’. She replied ; ‘or you could splooge on my face.’

But 'aggresive' to me sounds like a negative thing, no?

 

[Sgthaytham]

Well there you go. Last night she asked me if I was seeing anyone else. I asked her what she meant, and then she asked me what we were, I asked what she was trying to say (I knew exactly, but just wanted to see if she'd say it)... And that's when she said she wants to be exclusive.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

But 'aggresive' to me sounds like a negative thing, no?

Agree. Maybe ‘forward’. Or the old ‘Hot to Trot’ would be better.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Agree. Maybe ‘forward’. Or the old ‘Hot to Trot’ would be better.

Yeah something like that. I mean, I don't feel it's too bad, or even a red flag, if a woman makes a sexual move on me early on. Every man's aim should be to have fun and hook up.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

What happened to me today is more of what I think of when I read the title of this thread.
A girl at the gym who I’ve been casually flirting with for a couple of weeks. I mentioned a festival coming up in The City. She said; ‘you & I should go.’

 

[Sgthaytham]

She sent me a message late last night. I had just gotten into bed.

She asked me if I wanted to come over to her's for drinks, she had a friend over. I joked around with her and she actually started flirting/teasing.

Saturday is going to be fun, fun, fun haha

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Well there you go. Last night she asked me if I was seeing anyone else. I asked her what she meant, and then she asked me what we were, I asked what she was trying to say (I knew exactly, but just wanted to see if she'd say it)... And that's when she said she wants to be exclusive.

How long have you known this girl? I wouldn't have the exclusive talk unless it's been 6 months, 4 if the girl is your type lol.

 

[Sgthaytham]

How long have you known this girl? I wouldn't have the exclusive talk unless it's been 6 months, 4 if the girl is your type lol.

That's the thing I didn't bring it up, she did - and that's the greatest thing. It's her idea. I just follow the 'Hang out, have fun, hook up' mantra. Just goes to show her level of interest is pretty high, a 6 or something.

Everything is natural this way. You do you, though.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP - It’s much nicer and feels much more natural to be pursued.

But be very conscious of the Idealisation, Devaluation and Discard cycle that high-interest women often go through. It can be hard to see a woman go from aggressively pursuing you to a sudden drop in interest. Not being negative, but we see it all the time. Stay frosty!

Women who are unmarried and childless are more prone to doing this. Especially if they are older. Another reason not to discard the single mom category.

 

[Sgthaytham]

OP - It’s much nicer and feels much more natural to be pursued.

But be very conscious of the Idealisation, Devaluation and Discard cycle that high-interest women often go through. It can be hard to see a woman go from aggressively pursuing you to a sudden drop in interest. Not being negative, but we see it all the time. Stay frosty!

Thanks for the head's up.

I'm well-rehearsed with a woman's fluctuating interest. It's inevitable that it drops at some points, its all about how you deal with it.

For instance, if you spend 5 days, maybe a week with a girl when you go on a trip or something... it's normal that her interest will lower slightly. If you keep strong and don't let it phase you, she'll come back even more interested.