"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So she is contacting me again after I went no contact

MattB

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Long story short

- Went out on 2 dates with this girl. She was introduced to me by my friend's gf.

- After the second date she became a lot more distant. I kinda knew from the end of the second date that omething was wrong. I posted about this in another thread and was told I acted too needy during the date. (fair enough since I have just gotten out of a ltr and is getting back to dating)

-I subsequently asked her out twice. Both times she was "busy". The first time I can understand because it's her best friend's birthday. The second time I can smell bs.

- Decided she was too much hassle and giving me too much stress, planning to next her as I have been meeting with a lot more girls recently and getting more options.

- My friend's gf met her at a birthday party and the girl said I was "moving too fast" for her.

- I have a soft spot for this girl so I decided to try one last time. Called her on Sunday night and she didn't pick up. She texted me back the next day saying she missed the call cus she went out. I knew it was a LIE because she was posting on her blog 5 minutes after I called her. Decided to next and didn't reply to her message.

- 4 days later (today), she texted me asking " What have you been busy with lately?"


The rational side of me tells me that I should ignore it and move on. The "emotional" side of me is thinking whether I should entertain the possibility of talking to her again and make something happen.

What do you guys think.:crackup:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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foreverAFC

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give it up dude she isnt interested
 

like2jam

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Take the lesson and move on. Remember next time to remain a mystery longer and don't try so hard. Let her guess how you're feeling about her.

If she starts messaging you all the time or calling you and saying hey, let's go out again, then maybe. But whatever you do, do NOT ask her out again. I would probably go NC with her, but if you do reply, keep it curt and few and far between.
 

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MattB, update? What ended up happening with this girl?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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