"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So she is contacting me again after I went no contact

MattB

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Long story short

- Went out on 2 dates with this girl. She was introduced to me by my friend's gf.

- After the second date she became a lot more distant. I kinda knew from the end of the second date that omething was wrong. I posted about this in another thread and was told I acted too needy during the date. (fair enough since I have just gotten out of a ltr and is getting back to dating)

-I subsequently asked her out twice. Both times she was "busy". The first time I can understand because it's her best friend's birthday. The second time I can smell bs.

- Decided she was too much hassle and giving me too much stress, planning to next her as I have been meeting with a lot more girls recently and getting more options.

- My friend's gf met her at a birthday party and the girl said I was "moving too fast" for her.

- I have a soft spot for this girl so I decided to try one last time. Called her on Sunday night and she didn't pick up. She texted me back the next day saying she missed the call cus she went out. I knew it was a LIE because she was posting on her blog 5 minutes after I called her. Decided to next and didn't reply to her message.

- 4 days later (today), she texted me asking " What have you been busy with lately?"


The rational side of me tells me that I should ignore it and move on. The "emotional" side of me is thinking whether I should entertain the possibility of talking to her again and make something happen.

What do you guys think.:crackup:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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foreverAFC

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give it up dude she isnt interested
 

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Take the lesson and move on. Remember next time to remain a mystery longer and don't try so hard. Let her guess how you're feeling about her.

If she starts messaging you all the time or calling you and saying hey, let's go out again, then maybe. But whatever you do, do NOT ask her out again. I would probably go NC with her, but if you do reply, keep it curt and few and far between.
 

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MattB, update? What ended up happening with this girl?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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