"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So she is contacting me again after I went no contact

MattB

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Long story short

- Went out on 2 dates with this girl. She was introduced to me by my friend's gf.

- After the second date she became a lot more distant. I kinda knew from the end of the second date that omething was wrong. I posted about this in another thread and was told I acted too needy during the date. (fair enough since I have just gotten out of a ltr and is getting back to dating)

-I subsequently asked her out twice. Both times she was "busy". The first time I can understand because it's her best friend's birthday. The second time I can smell bs.

- Decided she was too much hassle and giving me too much stress, planning to next her as I have been meeting with a lot more girls recently and getting more options.

- My friend's gf met her at a birthday party and the girl said I was "moving too fast" for her.

- I have a soft spot for this girl so I decided to try one last time. Called her on Sunday night and she didn't pick up. She texted me back the next day saying she missed the call cus she went out. I knew it was a LIE because she was posting on her blog 5 minutes after I called her. Decided to next and didn't reply to her message.

- 4 days later (today), she texted me asking " What have you been busy with lately?"


The rational side of me tells me that I should ignore it and move on. The "emotional" side of me is thinking whether I should entertain the possibility of talking to her again and make something happen.

What do you guys think.:crackup:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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foreverAFC

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give it up dude she isnt interested
 

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Take the lesson and move on. Remember next time to remain a mystery longer and don't try so hard. Let her guess how you're feeling about her.

If she starts messaging you all the time or calling you and saying hey, let's go out again, then maybe. But whatever you do, do NOT ask her out again. I would probably go NC with her, but if you do reply, keep it curt and few and far between.
 

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MattB, update? What ended up happening with this girl?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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