"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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so obvious

Stags09

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ok i met this girl thursday at a friends pool they go to school together and i go to another school there was zero chance of isolating this girl and closing but we had amazing eye contact from both of us that was really obvious and we both knew what was going on and i could tell she wanted to talk to me but we were in the pool and there was NOTHING to do just a really borring and akward situation but we both knew through the eye contact alone what was up at one point i saw her looking at me out of the corner of my eye and i locked eyes with her and gave her this huge smile and she giggled and turned her back and started talking to her friend and said something about, "there are to many thoughts going through my head right now" followed by giggles she was flirty but it was dark and borring and just a bad situation really so i found her on facebook and messaged her saying how boring the pool was and how she should hang out when something is actually going on and she replied, "yeah im free to do it anytime!" should i just respond back like ok whats your number and i will call you and we can do something this weekend? just kind curious about how to word it im going to do it no matter what just seeing how you guys would word it
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HandyAndy

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Make sure not to ask for her number, force her (for a lack of a better word) to give it to you. For example:

Dont say: Hey, can I have your number?
Say: Give me your number and we'll hang out this weekend.

Well I guess thats what you were going to say in the first place...im bad at giving advice lol
 

Stags09

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lol thanks yeah i got it and thats pretty much what i said i knew thats what i was going to say just seeing how others would have worded it
 

playa99

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for any girl dont ask for her number
tell her to give you her number
i told my current gf that she was going out with me
shows all the DJ qualities
;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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