ok i met this girl thursday at a friends pool they go to school together and i go to another school there was zero chance of isolating this girl and closing but we had amazing eye contact from both of us that was really obvious and we both knew what was going on and i could tell she wanted to talk to me but we were in the pool and there was NOTHING to do just a really borring and akward situation but we both knew through the eye contact alone what was up at one point i saw her looking at me out of the corner of my eye and i locked eyes with her and gave her this huge smile and she giggled and turned her back and started talking to her friend and said something about, "there are to many thoughts going through my head right now" followed by giggles she was flirty but it was dark and borring and just a bad situation really so i found her on facebook and messaged her saying how boring the pool was and how she should hang out when something is actually going on and she replied, "yeah im free to do it anytime!" should i just respond back like ok whats your number and i will call you and we can do something this weekend? just kind curious about how to word it im going to do it no matter what just seeing how you guys would word it
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
so obvious
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Senior Don Juan
1) get balls
2) get her number
3) hang out
4) hook up
2) get her number
3) hang out
4) hook up
Make sure not to ask for her number, force her (for a lack of a better word) to give it to you. For example:
Dont say: Hey, can I have your number?
Say: Give me your number and we'll hang out this weekend.
Well I guess thats what you were going to say in the first place...im bad at giving advice lol
Dont say: Hey, can I have your number?
Say: Give me your number and we'll hang out this weekend.
Well I guess thats what you were going to say in the first place...im bad at giving advice lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.